As the saying goes, "One misstep becomes a thousand years of hatred, and then you look back on it for a hundred years." This ancient adage teaches us all the time to face what happens rationally, and not to leave ourselves with lifelong regrets because of the impulse.

In life, the world is changing, how to face what happens, whether to deal with it rationally or impulsively, many people seem to be a little out of control.

In the face of a complicated life, how many people will think that there are only a few decades in life, how much time can be used for repentance and self-blame, and where to find irreparable lifelong regrets and regrets brought about by the loss of control of impulses. There is a classic foreign proverb: "If God wants him to perish, he must first make him crazy!" "Impulsiveness is like a flood that bursts a levee, drowning people's sanity, making people do incredible stupid things, and like crazy beasts, making people lose their proper self-control.

There was once such a story:

One day, the owner of a large company was inspecting the warehouse and suddenly found a worker sitting on the ground reading a comic strip. And this boss hated the worker for being lazy during working hours, so his temper suddenly came up, and he angrily asked the worker: "How much do you earn in a month?" "A thousand dollars." The worker replied nonchalantly. The boss immediately took a thousand dollars out of his pocket and gave him a thousand dollars, and shouted, "Get out of here when you get the money!" ”

Afterwards, the boss scolded his logistics supervisor: "Who introduced that worker, how can I be lazy, don't they know my temper?" The supervisor said, "That person is actually not an employee of our company, but was sent by another company to deliver the goods." ”

The boss of the company lost a thousand dollars in vain because of the spur of the moment.

Throughout the ages, there have been warnings of "think twice before you act", but how many people follow the ancient precepts? The consequences of impulses after losing control are unpredictable, and in the face of all changes in survival, we must learn to be patient, and patience exercises people's perseverance and cultivates people's temperament. Everyone knows that it is easy to cause trouble and create evil consequences when they are angry, so why don't they have more self-control in their behavior and habits?

According to one study, impulsiveness costs humans hundreds of times more than the coal burned worldwide. Therefore, impulse is one of the most destructive energies in the world.

In fact, there is no need for so many impulses in the world, as long as you endure a little, I give in a little, or calm each other down, things will not become so complicated, and after each other's emotions have calmed down, it will be easier to solve the problem.

A wise man once asked his disciples, "Why do many people, when they are angry, shout hard instead of whispering?"

The disciples talked a lot of reasons, but none of them satisfied the wise man, and finally the wise man explained: When two people are angry, the distance between their hearts is very far, and in order to cover up their distance, so that the other party can hear their voices, they must shout harder, and when people shout, they will become more angry and angry, and the distance between their hearts will be farther, and the farther away they will shout, and the farther they are, they must shout louder......

The wise man continued: When two people are in love, they speak very quietly, why is this situation the opposite? That's because they're so close to each other's hearts!

Finally, the wise man instructed his disciples to say: When you quarrel with others, don't let the distance between your heart and the other person's heart become farther away, and don't say something that makes your heart even farther away. Wait until a few days have passed, and the distance between their hearts is not so far, let's solve the problem again!

We all know that emotions have a natural nature, and if you want to control your emotions, you can't control them unless you harness it with the power of self-control. People who are good at self-control, in the face of extraordinary situations, are not alarmed, and are calm and calm. People who are not good at self-control are often swayed by negative emotions, which can make things worse or even cause tragedy.

The Russian writer Turgenev once advised those who are prone to outbursts of passion: "It is better to turn your tongue in your mouth a few times before speaking". As the saying goes: endure for a while, calm the waves, take a step back, and open the sky. There's no need to get angry.

People who act impulsively and can't hide their feelings or expressions can easily make mistakes. Whether in work or life, you should be rational and not impulsive, lose your temper, show your majesty, your personality is stretched, and your passion and indignation are released, but the sequelae left behind will take a lot of time and energy to deal with, and even cause great harm to yourself, which is really to punish yourself for the mistakes of others.