Many people dare to be angry but dare not speak up when they are angry, and they don't know why they are so painful. If this kind of stuffiness is not vented, it is only smoldering in the heart, and over time, not only will people be depressed, but they may also get sick.

Dr. Spencer Johnson, an American author, said that successful entrepreneurs should not only be good at controlling their emotions, but also prepare a safe emotional piston for themselves so that they can turn it on when they can't control themselves. Because it's a harmless way to vent.

Calm people are not unangry, they vent their anger for good things. More than 200 years ago, the poet Deledon adapted a Latin idiom like this: "Beware of the wrath of a patient man." Once the emotions that have been oppressed for a long time are relaxed, they will cause the most violent outbursts. ”

Spencer Johnson once said, "If I'm angry, I don't let anyone know." I'd walk away and run to the gym next to my office on the rooftop, put on boxing gloves, fight my boxer, and get my anger out. If the boxer is not there, he will hammer the sandbags desperately. ”

He was right. When he is stimulated, he doesn't try to suppress his anger, but runs to a place where he can vent and fights with the boxer or the bag. If, when he hits, he imagines that the bag he hits is the head of the man who provokes his anger, it will be more to his taste.

People who always cling to their anger often get lost in their own anger because of their anger. When you have incomprehensible anger in your chest, there will be a strong pressure that will make you emotionally unstable, restless, and in a trance all day long. In this state of mind, not only is the efficiency of work and study greatly reduced, but mistakes and accidents may occur.

There is a humorous story that profoundly portrays this phenomenon:

A gentleman who was wronged in the company, for the sake of his job, he didn't dare to collide with the boss, so he sprinkled all his belly of guilt on his wife; The wife transfers this resentment to the children; The child was scolded by his mother and ran to kick the dog; The dog that was inexplicably kicked with a belly of fire ran out to the road and bit a pedestrian. And that pedestrian is the owner of the company who is angry with Mr.

In the journey of life, success and failure, fame and fortune, grievances and grievances, right and wrong accompany us all the time. If we keep some sad words, troublesome things, and boring things in our hearts and haunt our minds forever, it is equivalent to carrying a heavy burden and invisible shackles, and living a bitter and tired life, so that we will be mentally exhausted and exhausted.

Whenever you are treated unfairly, and the anger in your heart is about to burst, you might as well establish a "hypothetical enemy" and vent all your infinite grievances on it.

There is a Mr. Wang, who is usually very impatient, and once he was criticized by the leader for going too far, and he was full of anger and wanted to retaliate with his fists and feet. An old friend of his dragged him to the vegetable garden and ordered him to dig up the soil. As a result, he subconsciously dug a big hole, and then filled it again, planed it again, and filled it again, and so on and so forth, and finally the rain on his face cleared.

Woodher, the general manager of the American Banknote Company, has come up with a good way to quench the anger that often rises in his heart.

At a very young age. Woodherr works as a clerk in a company. He was unhappy. Because the leader doesn't pay much attention to him at all, and he feels that he is slow to improve.

Woodhull has been feeling this way for a long time. But he knew that if he showed himself too obviously, it would make his boss unhappy. So, what did Woodhear do to extinguish the fire in his heart? Here's what he had to say:

There was a time when my feelings of anger and sadness were so strong that they grew so much that I felt compelled to leave. But before I could write my resignation letter, I went and grabbed a pen and a bottle of red ink—because black ink wasn't enough to vent my intense anger—and went out to write out my judgments about every senior employee and manager in the company. I wrote very well and used a lot of descriptions. Then I put the list away and told an old friend about my anger.

He took another bottle of black ink and wrote down the talents of these people, and wrote about what he could be proud of, and planned how he would improve his status in ten years. Then he compared the two sheets of red and black ink to each other, and all Woodher's anger vanished. He calmly analyzed the situation and decided to continue working here.

Whenever I couldn't help it, I would sit down and write down everything I wanted to say but didn't dare to say directly. It's a great way to vent.

Venting your emotions in moderation will be like a summer storm, purifying the air around you, pouring out the depression and bitterness in your chest, and relieving tension. If Lincoln, the 16th president of the United States, gets angry with someone outside, he will write a letter scolding the other person when he returns home. But when his family wanted to send the letter for him the next day, he would stop it with all his might, saying, "I was already angry when I wrote the letter, so why send it out and make trouble!" ”

Some people compare human psychology to a balloon, in daily life, we often put some desires, impulses, needs, etc. into this balloon, so this balloon is getting bigger and bigger. When the pressure reaches a certain level, we will feel that the pressure in our hearts is too great, and there is a feeling that the balloon is about to explode. Appropriate, timely and appropriate catharsis is very important to maintain mental health and balance.

Therefore, everyone needs to understand their emotions and find an appropriate way to vent, and the key to this is to find the right channel.

Here are some catharsis techniques and experiences summarized by psychologists for your reference.

(1) Outward catharsis

Projection refers to a way of projecting one's own motives, thoughts, attitudes, and desires onto the defense of others or the outside world, and what is projected out is often something that is suppressed by oneself. For example, when a person is very miserable, when he sees water droplets on the flowers, he will feel that the flowers are also shedding tears. When some people watch movies or novels, they can't help but feel sad and even cry for certain plots in the story, which is actually a kind of projection catharsis.

(2) Expand your imagination

Imagination is omnipotent, no matter what kind of things you encounter in daily life, as long as you close your eyes, the most difficult things can be solved, and the most difficult wishes can be realized. For example, if you want a villa, close your eyes and think about it, and a villa that you want will appear in front of you, and it can be owned by you. The only thing that can really do "everything you want come true" is imagination. Although imagination is a kind of "spiritual victory" and a "Ah Q" spirit, it does make you feel relaxed and happy for a while, which can play a cathartic role. Of course, being immersed in imagination all day long and detached from reality like Ah Q is a sign of psychological unhealth. However, temporarily "getting addicted" is a good way to regulate psychology and relieve stress.

(3) Cry out

As a person grows up, he constantly learns the skills of catharsis and learns a lot of coping methods. But when you encounter something very tricky, and you can't use the coping and catharsis methods you have learned, you will unconsciously degenerate into the catharsis and coping methods you used when you were a child, which is crying.

When you cry, you cry out the pressure in your heart, so when you finish crying, there will be a sense of relief. Only the tears that can't help but flow can achieve the purpose of catharsis.

When the child encounters a sad thing, he often cries. Adults, especially men, tend to think that "men don't flick when they have tears", and they endure their grief without shedding tears. In fact, this can also be harmful to health, because tears can help excrete some chemicals that are harmful to health. You also have to give your emotions a floodgate and open it when the time comes.

Sometimes, although some things make you unbearable, feel unfair, and want to lose your temper, but for the sake of your own face, you can barely endure it. But you know that the problem is still not solved, and the anger and dissatisfaction are still held in your heart, and they will be detonated at any time. Therefore, we need an emotional floodgate to vent our anger.