When you're angry, don't rush out and wait for your heartbeat to slow down.

People often say that at the critical time, we must know how to "calm down for three seconds", and although "calm down for three seconds" is a figurative statement, it reveals a deep philosophy. In the moment of emotional impulse, as long as you can overcome yourself and calm down quickly, you can defeat the other party. In fact, if we really wait until we are at peace, we will find that there is nothing to complain about at all, and there is nothing to be angry about.

A rich man said this about his way of venting his anger: "When I knew that my anger was coming, I quickly and quietly tried to leave and run to my gym. If my boxer is there, I'll fight him; If the boxer wasn't there, I would pound my skin until I was done venting my anger. ”

A man quarrels with his neighbors over a trivial matter, and the argument is so great that no one will budge. Eventually, the man ran to the pastor, who was the wisest and fairest man in the area.

"Pastor, come and judge us! My neighbor was unreasonable! He went so far as ...... that the man was so angry that as soon as he saw the priest he began to complain and accuse, and was about to accuse his neighbor of being wrong, when he was interrupted by the priest.

The pastor said, "I'm sorry, I'm in trouble right now, so please go back first and talk to me tomorrow!" ”

Early the next morning, the man came again in indignation, but apparently not as angry as he had been yesterday.

"Today, you must help me judge right and wrong, that person is so unpleasant......" He began to count the bad deeds of his neighbors again.

The pastor said unpleasantly, "Your anger has not yet been removed, so come back to me when you are calm!" It just so happens that I haven't done it yet. ”

For several days, the man did not come to the pastor. As it happened, the pastor met the man on his way to the sermon, who was busy in the fields and was obviously much calmer.

The pastor asked, "Now, do you need me to judge?" After saying that, they looked at each other with a smile.

The man smiled shamefully and said, "I'm at peace now!" It's not a big deal to think about, and it's not worth being angry at all. ”

The pastor was still unhappy and said, "That's right, the reason why I'm not in a hurry to talk to you about this is just to give you time to dissipate your anger!" ”

It's an interesting story.

There are many ways to suppress anger, but the "time delay method" is an effective method. Thomas Jefferson concluded this strategy: "When you are angry, dozens of times before you speak, and if the anger still does not subside, you need to count to a hundred!" ”

One day, Bowman was in the hallway of the company. I heard a clerk in the office complaining about his work. thinks that the company has assigned him too many jobs, and the leader doesn't really appreciate him. Bowman wanted to go right away. Reprimanded him, then fired him. But it's not worth it to think about getting angry over such a trivial matter. So, when his anger had subsided a little, he walked forward and said to the clerk, "Johnson, do you feel wronged lately?" ”

"Ahh No," Johnson replied, "I think it's good." ”

"I seem to have heard you say that you are overworked, and you are a little dissatisfied with your work," said Borman and Trembling. Then Johnson looked ashamed, and admitted to himself that the only reason why he felt wronged was that he was unhappy the day before when a piece of glass had punctured a car tire!

When I am angry, I can't bear it for a while, what should I do? Many experts recommend a physiological approach to the mind:

The first thing to do is to keep your mouth shut, because when you are angry, your tongue is like a sharp sword, and it is easy to stab people.

Then take a deep breath and force your heartbeat and blood pressure to return to normal.

Or leave the scene to find a safe environment, move your body, play ball or do gymnastics, etc.;

When you are angry, you run to look in the mirror and feel funny when you see your anger, and you can't help but laugh out loud, and it will be much better.

When you are angry in your daily life or when you come into contact with people, go back to your room and sit quietly for a while, or even lie down for a while, or go for a walk in the countryside, and block all kinds of entertainment places to play, these are all good ways to dispel the troubles in your heart.

There was a merchant named Brad, who, whenever he got angry and had an argument with someone, ran home at a fast pace, ran around his house and land three times, and then sat on the edge of the field and gasped for breath. Brad was very industrious, his house was getting bigger, his land was getting bigger, and his possessions were getting bigger.

But no matter how big the house is, as long as he argues with people and gets angry, he will still run around the house and land three times, "Why does Brad run around the house and land three times every time he gets angry?" All who knew him had doubts in their hearts, but no matter how much they asked him, Brad would not say. Until one day, when Brad was very old, he got angry and walked around the land and the house with difficulty on crutches. By the time he had finally completed three laps, the sun had set.

Brad sat alone on the edge of the field panting, his grandson beside him pleading with him: "Grandpa! You're old, and no one in this neighborhood has bigger land than yours. You can't run around the land as angry as you used to! You don't. Can you tell me? Why do you have to run around the land three times when you're angry? ”

Buzhai couldn't resist his grandson's pleas, and told the secret that had been hidden in his heart for many years: "When I was young, whenever I quarreled, argued, and got angry with people, I would run around the house three times, and as I ran, I thought, my house is so small, the land is so small, how can I have the time and the right to be angry with people? As soon as I thought about it, my anger subsided, so I spent all my time working hard. ”

The grandson asked, "Why do you walk around the house and the land when you are old and you have become the richest person?" Brad laughed and said, "I still get angry, and when I'm angry, I walk around the house and the land three times, thinking as I go." My house is so big, and I have so much land, so why should I bother with people? The thought of this dissipates my anger. ”

We give ourselves a positive look for reasons not to be angry. When you find that you can't take it anymore and are about to have a seizure, it's best to try to leave immediately and go to a place where you can forget everything for a while. When your mind is clear and calm, you will be able to solve your troubles in a smarter and more rational way.

In the history of Russia, there was an empress named Catherine Velykaya, who used this method more than once. When she became angry with a minister, she would take a big sip of water and walk around the room until her anger was dissolved, until her anger was replaced by tolerance.

So, when you are provoked by something, don't get excited, but think calmly and comprehensively about those conflicts, and perhaps, then you will be able to come to the conclusion that my anger is unfounded, and there is no need for me to be angry!

If you're in a state of anger, or if you're in a state of excitement, you're going to do a lot of stupid things. In this case, be sane. Even if it's a disguise – smile. Because a smile works wonders. As soon as you grinned, something pleasant immediately came to mind, and all organs were taken out of a state of readiness for battle. Feelings are contagious, and we must believe that anger begets anger and that a smile reciprocates a smile.

When we are angry, we can try those actions that can make us concentrate, such as biting our lips, slowly moving our tongue tangentially along the palate 5~6 times, then silently counting to 10, and then taking a few deep breaths. Repeating this a few times will help you get rid of anger.

In short, you must calm down first, calm down, and your anger will be gone.

If you are impatient and angry when you encounter troubles, it will not do you any good people or things. When a person is furious, his mind is often controlled by blindness, and he has no time to judge the consequences of his actions, and even loses his mind and does stupid things that cannot be regretted.