There is no more headache in life than those who "can't control themselves".

Sometimes, we are also misunderstood, even ridiculed or scorned by others. At this time, if we can't control our emotions well, it will cause disharmony in interpersonal relationships, which will have a great negative impact on our lives and work. Therefore, when we are injured unexpectedly, we must learn to control our emotions, and getting angry easily will only have the opposite effect.

Reason is the highest talent, but it cannot win without restraining emotions. People who can control themselves, no matter what happens, what problems arise, including the embarrassing situation of being insulted and spit on in front of others, can find a reason for psychological balance.

Former U.S. President Abraham Lincoln was also an irritable man when he first came of age. But later, he learned self-control and became a compassionate and persuasive person. He once said to Colonel Forney, "I have developed a good habit of keeping my temper in check since the Battle of Black Hawk, and I have maintained it ever since, which has given me great benefits." ”

Self-control can make people feel confident and win the trust of others, and people always trust those who can control themselves in their interactions. And a person who has no control over himself can manage neither his own affairs nor the affairs of others. It is impossible for a person to succeed in life without self-control.

When Pogue was nine years old, his father gave him a somewhat curved wooden tennis racket and took him to a nearby park for a while. From the first swing of the racket, he fell in love with tennis uncontrollably. Soon after, he stood out from his peers in the country.

By the age of twelve, he regularly beats the best senior tennis players in the country and is able to compete with world-class professional tennis players. Everyone predicted that one day, he might become a World Champion. But the premise is that he must learn to control his emotions.

Pogue is extremely talented and competitive in the sport of tennis, but he is a hot-tempered, impulsive and headstrong man who is eager to win every point in the game. But if things don't go as planned, such as a mistake that shouldn't have been made, or a referee makes a mistake, he will be furious.

When things go against his will, he will be full of swearing. Quarrel with the referee and throw away the racket. More than once he slammed his racket against the post until it shattered. He was so grumpy that he didn't know how to control it, and sometimes complained before it even started, so he started losing games that he could have won.

One day, his father came to watch him play. As soon as the game began, Duge began to deal his cards again: yelling, swearing, throwing rackets, and spitting at the crowd. Witnessing these abominable acts, Pogue's father could not bear it.

Ten minutes later, in the middle of the game, his father suddenly got up, walked into the court, and announced to the crowd: "This is the end of the game, my son abstained." After speaking, he came to his son, grabbed the racket, and said sternly, "Follow me." ”

When he got home, his father locked Pogue's racket in the storage room and told him in a firm tone: "The racket should be stored in the storage room for six months. After six months, you can pick up the racket again, and that's it. ”

Pogue was stunned, because tennis was his life and all his passion, and it took six months to touch a racket, and for a twelve-year-old, six months was like six years. After six months of not touching tennis, he felt that there was no joy in life.

When the six months were up, the father took the racket from the pantry and handed it to his son. Say, "In the future, if I hear you say a curse and see you holding your racket in anger, I will take it away forever." Either you control your temper or I control the racket for you. ”

Pogue was ecstatic to be able to play again, and he poured more enthusiasm into it than before. Before he was fifteen years old, he had beaten many professional golfers: at the age of sixteen. He won the All-European Professional Tennis Championship.

With one major game after another, Pogue got better and better. The media began to call it the "Teenage Angel" because he was so young. With such innocence, on the field he behaved like an angel, and in the days when his father forbade him to play, he learned to control his emotions, even in the most tense moments: even in the final of a major tournament, the referee badly misjudged the touchline ball, he was in poise; He is so good at controlling his emotions that even his opponents are intimidated by his demeanor on the field. Whether it's the first point of a relaxed game or the last point of a tense final, his expression and attitude are the same. He had complete control over his emotions.

Pogue reached the pinnacle of a tennis player's career. He has won a total of fourteen tournaments, including six French Open titles and five Wimbledon titles.

In an interview with reporters, Pogue admits convincingly that after learning to control his emotions, his life began to take a turn and it was also a turning point in his tennis career. Because he learned to control his emotions, he went from a complainer on the verge of collapse to a victor who was able to stay calm even in the most competitive moments.

We must realize that there are many occasions and many times when we are not allowed to vent our emotions, and that any person will have emotions, and if anyone can vent at will regardless of the occasion.

In fact, there are many emotions that we need to control, and among all our emotions, the most important one to restrain is anger, because anger can make people lose their minds. In many cases, irrepressible anger deprives people of good opportunities to solve problems and conflicts, and impulsive anger often has to pay a high price after the matter has passed. In real life, the damage caused by anger is sometimes irreparable. You may have lost an old client, lost a friend, lost an enviable job, or even led to the collapse of your marriage. So. When we encounter unexpected things, we must learn to control our emotions, and getting angry at every turn will only achieve the opposite effect.

Stupid people tend to use their emotions to control their behavior, while wise people use their actions to control their emotions. Just like the Illinois congressman in the United States, he was not embarrassed by the ridicule and contempt of others, but won the respect of everyone with his witty answers. If you manage your emotions well, you can avoid some unpleasant scenes.

The temper that is controlled is an important force, and if it is wisely coordinated, it becomes the energy that propels the work, just as the heat of a steam engine is converted into the power that pushes the wheels. Regrettably, many people have no control over themselves, willful and unrestrained. Self-control is a quality you must have when interacting with people. Only by learning self-control can we control others and control unexpected things, so that we can gain the respect we deserve.

Doing good is wiser than evil; Mild is safer than violent; Reason is more appropriate than madness. People who are emotionally out of control cannot have a more comprehensive and accurate understanding of things, nor can they face the various trials in life rationally. If you want to take control of your destiny and win a successful life, you must learn to control your emotions.