In life, many people refuse to accept an inevitable situation they encounter and want to resist it, which results in insomnia for several nights and pain, but the problem is not solved at all. In fact, it is only by finally accepting the fact that it is impossible to change that one is freed from the pain.

Gandhi is known as India's "Mahatma" and "Father of the Nation". One day, while riding a train, he accidentally dropped one of the shoes he was wearing on the tracks. By this time, the train had rumbled into motion, and it was impossible for him to get out of the train to pick up the shoe.

The people next to him felt sorry for Gandhi when they saw that Gandhi was missing a shoe. Suddenly, Gandhi bent down, took off his other shoe, and threw it out the window. One of the passengers next to him saw his strange behavior and asked, "Sir, why are you doing this?" ”

Gandhi smiled and said kindly, "In this way, the poor man who picks up the shoes will have a good pair of shoes to wear." ”

If you were the one who lost the shoe, would you throw the other shoe out?

In life, we often get frustrated and complaining about things in life that are unacceptable – confusion, noise, stolen things, clogged drains, etc. As much as we complain, get angry, nag, feel sorry for ourselves, and hope things will be different, no matter how much we frustrate ourselves, the result is the same: the things that frustrate us don't change in the slightest. Whether we grit our teeth or clench our fists, it does not help the facts, but rather adds fuel to the fire, making what is already bad even worse! On the contrary, if you can learn to tolerate, bravely accept the reality, and "don't cry for the spilled milk", it can often have a positive effect.

Many times, many people always think that accidents cannot happen to them, and once an accident occurs, they often seem very lost, and then they are either lost or complaining.

In the past, Mrs. Wang and her husband got along very well, but later, her personality and temper became worse and worse day by day. In the past, her husband loved fishing, and she thought that her husband was elegant, but now she said that her husband was not doing his job; In the past, her husband was never rough, and she thought how secure she was by her husband's side, but now she said that her husband couldn't handle it, and she didn't even want to walk with her husband when she went out.

In family life, Mrs. Wang picks her nose and eyes vertically, in a word-nothing is pleasing to the eye. My husband didn't understand why Mrs. Wang had changed so quickly, and how gentle she was before. Of course, there is a reason for Mrs. Wang's change of temper. Half a year ago, her unit laid off employees, and unfortunately, she was laid off. Her husband knew that she must be very unhappy in her heart, so she vented all her emotions on herself. However, this emotion has seriously disturbed their otherwise happy home, not only her husband feels extremely painful, but even their baby daughter often feels that the home is full of ** smell.

In this world, some people are always too fragile and sad, and Mrs. Wang's bad temper is due to the extreme fragility and sadness in her heart. Because she has no job, she feels that her value cannot be reflected, and then she loses her original interest and pursuit in life, and has a feeling of self-abandonment, so when facing her husband and daughter, she will have a feeling of impatience or anger. As Mrs. Wang, she should believe in her own abilities and believe that in her later life, there will be a better tomorrow. She should understand that everyone's circumstances are different, and she should reformulate her life plan, develop her yearning for a better future, find a way when she is in trouble, and do not use tantrums to relieve her inner pain.

When people encounter difficulties, setbacks, and adversity, they are often prone to depression and upset, which affects daily life, at this time we must first accept the reality, the reality is like this, only on the basis of acknowledging the reality, and then through efforts to change their current situation, is the right way.

In life, there is another kind of acceptance - we have to deal with people with different personalities. If you can't learn to get along with others, be kind to others, and accept others, our life will not be able to unfold, and you want everyone's character qualities to follow your wishes, which is impossible.

In a family, if the family wants to be harmonious and happy, the husband and wife should accept each other. Because everyone wants to be completely accepted by their partner, and they want to be able to get along with their partner easily, instead of sulking, arguing, and fighting all the time.

Many managers usually investigate the wife of a staff member before promoting him, not to see if his wife is beautiful or good at housework, but whether she can make his husband confident. Because these managers believe that to be a wife, she must accept everything from her husband, and make her husband live happily and have a sense of satisfaction. When your husband comes home, load him with a projectile of confidence. When he does this, the husband thinks, "She likes me like this." It can be seen that I have a certain place in her heart, and I am not worthless. If a wife can truly love her husband and trust him, he will have the confidence that "I will be able to do everything well", so when he goes out the next day, he will not be afraid of any difficulties and will accept the challenges at work with confidence. On the contrary, when the husband returns home, the wife will only nag, get angry, and complain incessantly, so that his fighting spirit will disappear completely.

A wife who is magnanimous and able to tolerate her husband's faults will surely receive more affection from her husband. People are willing to live in harmony with people who can accommodate themselves and accept their shortcomings. If it is because of the wife's narrow-mindedness and complaining that the husband loses confidence in himself and hates himself, then. The husband will be impatient with the son of his self-confidence and self-esteem, and the family will become turbulent because of each other's nitpicking, such a marriage is a pain for both parties, and the marriage is really going to the "grave".

Accepting the fact that you can't change is not only a self-comforting, but also a self-redemption.

We need to have the ability to "accept": tolerate the faults of others and accept reality. As one poet put it, "If you still regret missing yesterday's sun, you will miss the stars and moon tonight." ”