As the saying goes, "Goods are more important than they are thrown away, and people are more dead than others." ”

The colleague sitting in front of you in the office bought a laptop, are you jealous of her? My neighbor just got a new car, but yours has been using it for 10 years, do you feel uncomfortable? A colleague in the company recently inherited a large inheritance, are you red-eyed?

When your mind is full of questions like these every day, your body and mind will be in a state of tension and your temper will become more and more irritable.

There are three families living in the small courtyard. One household is a company employee, and the two are like two hard-working little bees, collecting pollen to make honey, being diligent and thrifty, and accumulating belongings little by little; Another family opened a beauty salon, and the business was very prosperous, although it was not a daily income, it was enough to make people salivate: the third family was a poor poet, and the famous family could not reach it, so naturally there was no money, but they drank a little wine, shook their long hair, or spread paper and books, or sang softly, and enjoyed themselves.

On the surface, the three neighbors are polite and get along in harmony, but the "little ninety-nine" behind the scenes is big. The clerk was uninhibited by the poet's uninhibited and self-indulgent behavior, and could not convince himself to compliment the shallow ignorance of the beauty salon owner, who only recognized the virtue of money and not people. The owner of the beauty salon not only despises the poor sourness of the little clerk and the little appearance of tightening his belt to get by, but at the same time hates the poet's nobility; The poor poet despised the mediocrity of the petty clerk and "smelled" the copper stench of the businessman.

In the bottom of his heart, the little clerk is jealous of the bulging pockets of the beauty salon owner and the talent of the poet; The owner of the beauty salon envied the steady and leisurely of the little staff and the loose and elegant poet; The poet, on the other hand, envied the contentment of the little clerk and the money of the beauty salon owner.

Therefore, every time people are quiet in the middle of the night, there are often deep sighs from the people of this Lanhu family, which is the result of the evil of people compared to people.

Comparison is a kind of human nature. Seeing that people are good and people are strong, how can ordinary people not be moved? Even if you are a high-ranking monk, you have to say "Amitabha" three times to suppress your desires and evil thoughts. In this world, some people have a lot of money, fine clothes and food; Some people have no surplus grain in their warehouses and no surplus coins in their cabinets; Some human rights are temporary, calling for wind and rain; Some people carry sedan chairs and carts, and are cautious in their words and deeds; Some people have mansions, incense cars, and wives; Some people have ugly wives, thin floors, and torn cotton clothes...... The same life and different life often make many hearts feel a lot of emotion. In fact, such problems are less to think about, less to compare, and sometimes it is very important to accept fate.

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Xiao Chen and Xiao Li got married for a while, and the two of them were like glue, which was very good. However, in recent times, Xiaoli has been depressed. And whenever Xiao Chen went to pick her up from Xiaoli's unit after work, she no longer happily got into the car as she used to, put her arms around Xiao Chen's neck and asked him if he wanted her. Now, Xiao Chen found that after work, Xiaoli always had to wait until the other colleagues were almost done before coming out unhurriedly. Xiao Chen couldn't help but count a few words from Xiaoli, but he didn't expect Xiaoli to say aggrievedly: "Don't drive the Alto car to the door of the company in the future, there is an alley over there, you just stop there, I promise to come over as soon as I get off work!" Xiaoli also said that recently in the company, what kind of car she has disclosed has become a hot topic in the office, "Sister Wang is usually inconspicuous in the office, but during this time, she can find a feeling, and no one can beat her in a 'war of words'." There is no way, she is a BMW, and the license plate number has a few 8s, and it is enviable when she swings at the door of the company! Like Honda, it is also very beautiful, and the Polo car is well-behaved and foreign, and Poussin can barely see it, I am afraid that if you drive a little Alto like this, I will have no face among my colleagues."

Xiaoli envied how beautiful other people's cars were, so she complained in front of her husband, what good is this?

The differences in life are everywhere, and the desire to compare is difficult to overcome, which often discounts the happiness of life. However, can we change our thinking mode, and don't focus on our own weaknesses and disadvantages to compare the strengths and advantages of others, and compare ourselves to being useless and so tired. We must lower our eyes, learn to look down, and compare more with each other, and life will surely be more happy and satisfying. As written in a poem: "Others ride big horses, I straddle the donkey alone, looking back at the Chai Han, my heart is lighter." "Besides, the feeling of riding a big horse is not necessarily as good as you think, maybe across the donkey, you can still enjoy the scenery all the way, more leisurely, comfortable.

In fact, people are not angry with people, if they can be objectively compared, the result will definitely be less than the top and more than the bottom. This is true for any human being. And people will be angry, just because they compare their own shortcomings with the advantages of others, but ignore their own advantages, and take the worse places than others very seriously, and feel that the things that are better than others are very ordinary, and even ignore and can't see them. Some people will say, how can one compare with others who are worse than oneself? To compare, of course, is to compare with people who are better than themselves. That sounds like a very positive mindset, as if you're learning from the good, seeing the shortcomings, and then improving them, isn't it? Of course, if you have such a mentality, of course it is very good, but the problem is that after seeing others better than themselves, some people often do not start to study and work hard, but constantly complain about themselves, and even think that they are worthless.

Many people lose their mental balance in comparison, and this psychological imbalance drives them to pursue a new balance. If, in the pursuit of a new balance, you can consciously accept the constraints and limitations of morality by means of fair competition. It is also commendable and fortunate to realize the self-worth of life and achieve a new balance through one's own efforts and struggles; If in the pursuit of a new balance, you lose your mind because of anger. Unscrupulous means to keep the body and mind in a state of loss of control, then there will inevitably be some unexpected and terrible consequences, and life will inevitably fall into a defeat that is difficult to turn around.

Wang Mei is a competent government official, who has been continuously promoted for her outstanding political achievements and has become the director of the bureau. But in recent years, when he knew the reality that his colleagues and classmates in the past had better living conditions than him through various means, he always felt bad in his heart, thinking that his ability was at least not worse than theirs, and his position was higher than theirs, but the money was less than theirs. Moreover, as the head of a game, he has a heavier burden than them, a greater responsibility, and a harder work than them, but he is not as good as them economically. So during his tenure, he took bribes on a large scale.

In this way, the floodgates of his ideological vigilance finally tilted under the drive of uneven psychology, and the flood of desire suddenly poured down, uncontrollable.

Comparison, unbalanced psychology, has led many people to the path of crime.

There are many unsatisfactory things in life, and most of them come from comparison. Blindly and blindly comparing with others has caused psychological imbalance, and the unbalanced psychology makes people in an extremely uneasy state of anxiety, contradictions, and anger, which makes people complain, depressed, and even unwilling to forge ahead.

A philosopher once said, "Comparison is the root of all troubles." Therefore, in life, we should live our own lives with peace of mind, and not blindly envy others, or ignore our actual situation, and insist on competing with others.

Look at others, compare yourself, life is often in this comparison of coming and going, comparing resentment, comparing depression, and losing a good mood that you should have.