If your husband is the only one in your mother-in-law's family who can pass on the lineage, it would be better, and there is only one layer of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship.

But what about his brothers?

There is not only a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship, but also a concubine relationship, which you also have to deal with.

As a daughter-in-law, you naturally do not have the power to control the housekeeping of the family, you can only assist your mother-in-law and give her a hand, but in terms of real housework, it is naturally your daughter-in-law who does it.

When fulfilling the obligations of a daughter-in-law, are you willing to do all the work by yourself and let the concubines be idle?

I definitely don't want to, not to mention that I want to let others do it, then at least it has to be fair! But there are some things that can be calculated so clearly that everyone can be satisfied.

In terms of rights, in the same way, everyone hopes that their small family can have more say in the family, share more benefits, and gain the favor of more parents-in-law, so that they are more partial to their own house.

Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law contradictions, concubine contradictions, which family does not have?

Time goes forward, you have already become a mother-in-law, when your daughter-in-law can't give birth to a son for a long time, are you looking forward to your grandson?

Will you be happy when you can't give birth to a son but only a daughter?

No, because she can't pass on your family's incense, only her grandson can. Without grandchildren, you will have no support for the rest of your life, just like after the death of your eldest brother, your grandparents and their only grandson are gone, and the sky will fall for them.

You've been looking forward to it, looking forward to the birth of this grandson, but you still look forward to a girl's film, and you have disappointed all your expectations, do you hate this girl's film?

Just like I said before, mothers are different from their children, grandchildren and grandmothers are still separated by a generation, and mothers still have a process of pregnancy in October.

But what about grandma, she and this granddaughter have less of this relationship, will her attitude towards her granddaughter be better than her mother's? Think about grandma and your mother, no matter how bad your mother is to herself, is it as bad as grandma?

So, at this time, do you still firmly believe that you will not be like your mother, grandmother, or aunt when the time comes?

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After her words, the sisters were naturally not as determined as before.

After Xue Lang finished speaking in one breath, he didn't continue, letting the sisters digest what they said before.

After waiting for a while, I felt that they should have almost digested it, and continued, "Okay, then I'll continue to ask, do you hate grandpa or grandma more?" ”

Needless to say, the answer is unanimous, naturally, grandma.

Is that more hated mother or father?

Of course, it's still a mother's mother.

Xue Langjing asked her sister directly, "Xiao Jiu, why do you hate grandma more?" ”

"Grandma won't let us eat enough, she will feel distressed for a long time if she eats a piece of meat, and she will be scolded if she clips more chopsticks, scolding us all the time, and beating us..."

"Then hate grandpa?" Xue Langjing continued to ask.

Xiao Jiu thought for a while, "No, don't hate, grandpa didn't beat and scold us, and, sometimes, grandma is too much for us, grandpa will say grandma, help us." ”

If you ask other people, the answer is similar, they don't have any hatred for their grandfather at all, they are afraid and hate their grandmother.

The answer was not what she expected.

Why?

Have you ever thought that most of the meat, porridge, nests, and rice that are pulled out of our hands go into the bowls of grandfathers, fathers, and uncles!

Let's just talk about meat, grandma and aunt did keep an eye on us, not letting us eat even a little more.

But have you ever noticed that every time there is delicious or valuable food, they go into the mouths of grandpa and the three men, and grandma will always clip it to grandpa, saying that this is good and that is supplemented, which is good, and sometimes it will let the father and uncle eat well, and the mother and aunt are the same, and they are also in their husband's bowl.

But have you ever seen their own bowls?

In the past, even when you ate meat, have you ever seen grandma with large pieces of meat and bones in their own bowls? Do they have a lot of meat in their bowls? Is it more and at most broth?

Think about it, usually grandma and they have eaten a few bowls of porridge in one meal, and grandpa they eat how much, have you paid attention to these details?

Everyone was silent, as if they were all thinking about it, remembering how grandma and how they ate themselves, and how grandpa and they ate.

Think about it carefully, and try to recall the scene every time you eat.

It seems that although it is up to grandma and mother to decide how to divide the food, there are really not many good things in their own bowls, even ordinary wotou steamed porridge dishes.

So, why is this happening?

Everyone looked at Xue Langjing.

Of course, she will answer for everyone.

You know why? For the husband is their heaven, and the son is their future.

This is the idea that every woman is instilled in her head from an early age, and it is true of all the information we receive from our surroundings without them being taught directly.

The women who have been gradually instilled with these ideas since they were young have been deeply ingrained in their minds about their fathers at home, husbands in marriage, and husbands in death.

From the moment they marry into their in-laws' family, their husbands and sons are their everything, and they think that these two are the foundation of their survival. Let them put their husbands and sons first in most cases, even if they are harsh on themselves.

Because if the husband is not doing well, he will not be able to protect them, the sky will fall, and the son will not be able to rely on them in the future, and they will not be able to live in peace in the future.

Only they are good, and they can guess for themselves, so even if they are harsh on themselves, their daughters, and their granddaughters, they must give priority to their husbands, sons, and grandchildren, because they represent their present and future.

It's like we knew that girls were useless since we were children, so why eat so much. Grandma said, my mother said, my aunt said, when I went outside, all the information I came into contact with, everyone was saying that.

And what about the men? They have grandmothers, mothers, wives, sisters, and even daughters.

So many women defend them, cling to them, do they need to take matters into their own hands?

No, these women have taken the initiative to pile all the resources and benefits on him, for fear that they will have something bad and that they will not eat well.

Put all the good in their bowls from their daughters, granddaughters, and even their own bowls, and let the bad people let these women do it, and they get the benefits, and sometimes they even scold these women a few times, and be good people to their daughters, granddaughters, daughters-in-law, and even they themselves think that they are better than the women in the family to their daughters and granddaughters.

You see, sometimes when grandma goes too far, does grandpa still stop her? In everyone's eyes, grandpa at least helped us, so you don't hate it at all, you even thank him, thank him for relieving you.

But at that time, the things that Grandma pulled out of you were all in his bowl.

So you guys understand? It's not that the grandmothers themselves want to treat us harshly, it's the whole social environment that shapes them, so that they keep going down the road that will inevitably harsh their daughters, granddaughters, and daughters-in-law in the future.

I also hate her and blame her for hating her, but I know very well that this is caused by the whole society, from the moment you leave your mother's house to go to your mother-in-law's house, in such an environment, the identities of daughter-in-law, mother-in-law, and grandmother are what women must experience, and your future will go down this general path, and it is difficult to be transferred by personal will.