Since marriage is an agreement for the exchange of interests between a man and a woman, there must be a party who breaks the contract.

If you want to have a happy marriage, finding the right person is the key first. When you meet a woman who doesn't abide by the agreement, is watery, restless, and doesn't abide by women's morals, no matter how well you do, for her, it's all bullshit, don't talk about conscience, she just doesn't even have a little heart, Ye'er belongs to such a woman.

When such a person gets a marriage certificate with you, she never thinks about wanting to be with you for 10,000 years, just like someone who borrows money from you, he borrows money from you at the same time, he doesn't think about paying you back at all.

Another form of marriage dissolution is that there is a huge deviation in the exchange of interests between each other, and this huge deviation makes the party who pays too much not want to continue to pay too much, because this is a huge asymmetry of interests, and even a fool knows that he does not want to do a loss-making transaction. The typical representative of this kind of character is "Chen Shimei", when Chen Shimei and Qin Xianglian were farming at home and studying hard in the cold window, the interests between them were equal. However, a few years later, there was a huge contrast between the mutual value exchange between Chen Shimei and Qin Xianglian, who won the top prize, so Chen Shimei abandoned Qin Xianglian and married a royal daughter with a relatively equal value exchange. I think that this is unfair to Chen Shimei, put it on anyone, no one can do such a business with a huge contrast in the exchange of interests, a good marriage relationship must be reciprocal, the so-called "talented and beautiful, the right person", this is a wise saying, unchanged through the ages.

There is also a popular folk tale that contrasts so dramatically in the exchange of interests between men and women. In the Ming and Qing dynasties, there was a very famous woman in the land of fireworks, this woman was outstanding in appearance and talent, but this woman fell in love with a person who should not be loved, a very poor scholar and made a private life. This dusty woman gave everything she had for this poor and down-and-out scholar to study hard and gain fame.

After this scholar entered Beijing for the exam, he really did not waste ten years of hard study and the help of this dusty woman, and finally got the top prize. When the dusty woman who was waiting for the scholar wrote a letter to ask why the scholar did not fulfill her promise to marry her, the scholar wrote 14 words after receiving the letter, "Half a little red lips and ten thousand tastes, how can I be worthy of my champion", the words are beads, like ten thousand arrows piercing the heart! From then on, the woman was depressed and passed away not long after.

While people spurn this scholar's ingratitude, it is better to say that it is because there is a huge contrast in the exchange of interests between them, which is the root cause of the collapse of their love.

The reason why people will talk about such stories, I think it is because of the cultural connotation of our ancient nation, since ancient times, we pay too much attention to a person's "faith", and are ashamed to talk about "business" and "profit", I think this is the root cause of the tragedy, after all, when the balance of interests is seriously tilted, no one wants to continue to perform the contract as agreed, this is human nature, and we sometimes tend to ignore human nature, like to blindly use moral kidnapping to restrain people.

However, when they meet this kind of person in marriage and love, they can find happiness, as long as they find the person with the same interests, their marriage will last for a long time, which is the so-called "right match". In people's married life, they are afraid of meeting people like Ye'er, which is restless, watery, and unruly in their bones, and finding this kind of person as a wife is like meeting a person who is untrustworthy in the business field, the moment they get a marriage certificate with you, they never want to grow old with you! When you meet this kind of person, you will only harm people, and whoever marries home will not be able to live a stable life.

There are often scenes of drug dealers trading drugs in movie works, paying money with one hand and delivering goods with the other, but some people never thought about paying money with one hand and delivering goods with the other, and when you hand over your goods, what they handed over is a bullet, which will kill you immediately.

Those women who know how to exchange interests and are well versed in the conservation of values often find happiness that belongs to them, because they know that it is the nature of men to chase women, and only those women who are gentle and virtuous, beautiful and wise are the favorites of men. On the other hand, those beauties who have three wrong views, just blindly misunderstand the "talented and beautiful women", they think that they can obtain their own happiness by virtue of their beauty, they are wrong, they are without exception, none of them can find their own happiness, and in the end they all end in tragedy, without exception!

Because they don't know that men chase beauty, but what men love most is the kind of woman who is gentle and virtuous, who combines beauty and wisdom. Therefore, if there is a deviation in the understanding of the woman who wants to be happy and get everything by virtue of her beauty, she is often miserable in the second half of her life. In the first half of their lives, they were always surrounded by many men who chased the smell, and while they were complacent, they didn't know that there were more flies, not because the meat was good, but because it was a piece of stinky meat. When these women who rely on beauty to find happiness are old, no one wants to find a piece of stinky meat to go home to live, so such a woman has a miserable life in the second half of her life, and loneliness is accompanying her, ordinary people are like this, and so are those stars.

The wisdom formed by the ancient Chinese over thousands of years is always classic, but we have forgotten it. The ancients said "I'd rather marry a maid from a big family than marry a daughter from a small family", which is the truth, the maid of a large family, knowing etiquette, understanding the rules, and knowing the importance of educating children, will treat men as treasures, and marrying such a woman home will prosper the family and prosper the descendants; And the daughter of a small family is arrogant, unruly, greedy and selfish, and will only treat her man as a cow and horse, and she still seems proud, marrying such a woman to go home, not to mention Wangfu Wang's family, is to be able to spend a lifetime of peace and security, that is all luxury.

As the ancients said, "Marry the wrong man for a lifetime; Marrying the wrong wife will ruin three generations"! The ancients all knew how important it was to marry the wrong woman for the family, but I made mistakes again and again in Ye'er, I knew that it was not my intention, I just wanted to let my children have a complete home.