Hongyun obviously had a misunderstanding about "speaking", and to correct her behavior, she had to change her perception first.

"Hongyun, do I often ignore you after you speak?" Zhen Zhen asked.

"No, miss. When we're together, you're often talking a lot. I'm not used to your lack of talk lately. ”

"And who in your memory has ignored you?"

"I'm not a master, I'm just a subordinate, and it's common for people to talk and no one cares."

"Are there more or fewer people in the house who do this to you?"

"Mama Wang in the treasury, when I go to her to ask for what we need, it always seems that I can't hear it. Ah Xiang in the kitchen, when she goes to ask for hot water and snacks every day, she always has to nag for a long time. If I say one word, she will count me down ten. Don't listen to what I'm saying at all. Others...... Hey, forget about those once or twice, it's not interesting to pursue them. ”

"Not everyone, right?"

"But there's one that's uncomfortable enough."

"Why do you think they ignore you?"

"I'm not going to say nice things to please them."

"Who have you ever seen who can say nice things to please them?"

"The aster and cuizhu around my wife are quite good at talking, and I have seen Mama Wang greet them with a smile several times."

Zhen Zhen thought about it, and it was true that the two maids around her mother were quite clever. She said, "But that doesn't mean that what you're saying is bad?" Because Mama Wang may be kind to them because of his wife. ”

"I often wonder when I'll be able to talk like both of them."

"You're afraid you'll say the wrong thing?"

"yes, it's shameless."

"Have you said anything wrong before?"

"Before we came to Shangdu, a lot of people were wondering what was going on here. I just said: Can we just guess what we haven't seen? As a result, several people said that I was pretending and pretending. It's depressing to think about. ”

"You think you're wrong?"

"I've been scolded by people so much that I have nothing to say, not bad?"

"And what is your standard of right and wrong?"

"Everybody thinks it's right, right?" Hongyun's tone was a little hesitant.

"But what if I say you're right?"

"Huh? Miss, you ......" Hongyun was confused.

"How are you doing after being scolded by them?"

"What else, don't speak. Too much to say and more to be wrong. Hongyun replied helplessly.

"Then you don't say anything in your heart, do you feel good?"

"Of course not."

"So you'd still like to talk to the big guys more, right?"

"Hmm." Redcloud nodded.

After chatting for more than half an hour, Zhen Zhen began to change Hongyun's psychological misunderstandings and help her correct her unreasonable cognition about interpersonal relationships.

She said: "Hongyun, some people think that spicy dishes are delicious, and some people think that dishes that are not spicy are delicious. What do you think? ”

"It's all right."

"You wouldn't skip a meal just because you couldn't tell which was better, would you?"

"Of course, people are iron and rice are steel."

"Have you ever thought that people learn to speak from the age of 1 to say what they think to others? Why else would we speak? ”

"Hmm......" Hongyun couldn't pick it up.

"When many people talk together, although you don't speak, do you wonder if other people's words are good?"

Hongyun's heart was said, and she looked at this thirteen-year-old eldest lady who was shorter than herself with some horror, and nodded stiffly with her neck.

"Do you think that's a good idea?"

"I want to hear more about what other people say and learn from it."

"And when you do this, do you feel uncomfortable?"

"It's okay. It's just that sometimes the more I want to learn to speak, the more difficult it is to speak. ”

"Feeling nervous, isn't it?"

"Yes." Hongyun was not only puzzled in her heart, the eldest lady had never talked to herself about these topics! And she looked serious, Hongyun really hadn't seen it, and she was a little stunned unconsciously.

"Like eating, drinking, and sleeping, talking is a necessity for us to live. Just like when you eat, you don't judge whether it tastes good or not every time you eat a dish. When we are talking, others are not judging us all the time. ”

Zhen Zhen's tone and words of speech, Hongyun had never heard of it, and he didn't know how to react for a while, so he just nodded and agreed.

Zhen Zhen said: "Taking a step back, even if someone says that you are good or that you are not good, it is only the opinion of one person or a few people, and it is impossible to represent all people. Whether you are a good person or not, who should decide? ”

This question was clearly beyond Red Cloud's self-awareness, and she didn't know how to answer it. Zhen Zhen saw the thoughtful look on her face, and didn't speak again, but stopped and asked her to think.

However, Hongyun didn't speak, so Zhen Zhen inspired her to say, "Do you think you're a good person?"

"Of course." Red Cloud replied quickly.

"And what if someone says you're not a good person?"

"Who said?"

"For example, if we quarrel, I said you're not a good person." Zhen Zhen had a feeling of wanting to laugh.

"Miss, aren't you embarrassing me?" Hongyun couldn't answer, so he could only evade and play tricks.

"Hongyun, in fact, what about you as a person, half of the people around you have the final say, and half of it is you who have the final say. This half of yourself is in your own hands, and this one cannot be replaced by others. Because the person who knows your own thoughts best is yourself. Others are not worms in your stomach and don't know much about your thoughts, so they can't give a very fair opinion. Are you right? ”

"You mean, I'm up to the mark? I myself think that being a good person is a good person? ”

"As long as not everyone around you hates you. If there are a lot of people who have an opinion about you, then you need to hear what people don't like about you. If there is a mistake, just correct it, and if it's right, just stick to doing what you think is right. I think you know what other people think of you now, but you don't know how you see yourself. ”

"It seems like that's the reason." Hongyun thoughtfully put his index finger to his mouth.

"Hongyun, you start today, when you talk, especially when you chat. Don't think too much about whether it's good or not, whether it's right or not, as long as it complies with the rules of the house, you can say it. ”

"Huh? I, I, I...... Can it really be? ”

"You see, didn't you have a good conversation with me just now? You don't want to be afraid to say what is in your heart for the rest of your life, do you? Zhen Zhen encouraged her.

"I don't know what to do." Red Cloud was dazed.

"Okay, let's talk about that in a few days. You try to say a few more words these days, and feel how casual talking makes you change your mood. ”

"Okay. But miss, I think you're the one who has changed the most. ”

"Well, people have to grow up."

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