Xiao Xia, when my mother was a child, I often heard people say that interlacing is like separating mountains, and at that time I thought this was a little reasonable. As long as I work hard, I can understand the truth of all things.

It's actually right to think this way, but delving into everything will take away your energy accordingly.

Understanding the essence of an industry can sometimes take a lifetime of effort. In the same way, in everyone's life, to get to know another person, to associate with two or three people for a long time, may take away most of your life.

In our limited energy, we can't understand some things, some processes, some people's ideas, some details, clearly and thoroughly.

And that's the result of a lot of thought. Then there are more people and more things that we glimpse by and don't pay attention to at all, then we may not understand their lives, the things they do, and the way they do things.

Xiaoxia, her mother feels that she often ignores the interesting things around her, and often can't see the beautiful flowers and plants on the roadside, and her mother feels that she often shows the appearance of a careless person in life.

Mom is now standing on the side of the road, looking at the buildings on the side of the road and listening to the sound of motorcycles. This is the place where my mother walks every day after work. There is a building here, low, and the shops on the ground floor are restaurants, pharmacies, real estate agents, and so on.

Whether the exterior walls of this building are white or brown yellow, and the floors are at right angles or slightly solitary. Is the tree on the side of the road the acacia that has small insects hanging on it, or is it another tree species, and is there a bus stop nearby? It wasn't until today that my mother really took a serious look, and every day before, all of this was like a decoration of nothingness, unnoticed by me.

But that's not all, is it? The passers-by, the clerks, the waiters, and the mothers who had crossed paths with us didn't pay any attention, as if they were also empty decorations, unnoticed.

Mom is now sitting in a noodle shop on the ground floor of the building. In the past, my mother was busy passing by, busy eating, and then leaving in a hurry. I had never noticed the creaking floors of the noodle shop, the shiny wooden corner guards, and the low roof, where the second floor was separated by its own frame.

The second child of the noodle shop, his mother used to have some impressions of him. Just now, my mother ordered a meal with him, and found that his Mandarin used to have some accents, his hair was curly, and he looked like an ethnic minority. What's very powerful is that he counts very well, and he doesn't need to look at the record to know what his mother ordered, and how much it is. This look immediately reminded my mother of the previous memory, he was like this every time, and he could calculate the money at once without checking. It's amazing.

His seat is at the entrance of the stairs on the second floor, and when you look down from the second floor, you can see the end of the stairs where he is sitting. A small table, a bar counter for a fee, and he sits behind the table. When it comes to sitting, it feels more like nestled in a chair. When he curls up behind the bar, he feels smart and lazy. Today he wears a colorful beach short-sleeved shirt, which is very casual, and it is very incompatible with the noodle shop, and the fabric may be cooler.

The noodle shop and Xiaoer are covered with a layer of dirty yellow tiles the same color as the low building, as if they were from a movie in the 90s, which is a bit vague.

Where Mom lives, there are a lot of short-distance taxi drivers wandering the side of the road. They are all kinds of people, and each one will decorate their own car, and the style is very different. The air conditioners in the car were either strong or weak. Every time my mother took a short taxi, she didn't care. Because I didn't care, I didn't really feel the existence of air conditioning. Now pay attention, I found that many people also put fragrance tablets on the air conditioning outlets, if you don't see them, your mother's nose must be slack and ignore it.

Xiao Xia, the details of life, the details of others, the details of the left and right, if we don't pay attention, then sometimes, we are not even really spending time, but directly intercepting and discarding time.

When our attention is not focused on the details of the present, but in a corner of our mind, or in some fantasy or memory in our mind, then we are not living in the present.

If you don't live in the moment, you will disappear, you will not exist, and you will not return.

Observe, notice the details of various characters, and various events, such things that Mom had heard about before. That's when actors are figuring out their roles, they often find ways to go to real scenes, carefully see how others adapt to their real roles, and finally deduce all the details they observe through their feelings. The more details they collect, the more they can show what the characters look like, as if they were living in a different life.

Xiao Xia, my mother now hopes that she can pay attention to the things in her life and pay more attention than before, so that time will not pass in a hurry. Mom also wants to feel the presence of other people more than before, notice their habits, feel their lifestyle, and even one day, like an actor, say what makes everyone different.

Observe life as if you were an actor. When you're a driver, how do you greet guests in the car, how do you complain about hot weather, and how do you play with the widgets in the car. When you become a clerk, the ins and outs of your work, how do you deal with it, when the phone rings, how do you answer it, and how do you contact your contacts. When you are a doctor, how to grasp the balance of synaesthesia in the face of life and death, pain and relief. And when you're a mom, how your expression is like nothing, when you're a dad, how do you stabilize your emotions, when you're someone else, then what are you?

Xiao Xia, when we imitate others and track down the details, it is likely that we will slowly understand others. Those vexatious opponents, those supporting characters in life or society, may become living characters, or even become you, a part of you. And those times that seem to be gone, maybe after the boundaries of your understanding are extended, they will also become real imprints, real gravitational pull, so that your heart settles in this moment.

Xiao Xia, shall we be an actor together? Sometimes it is the present self, sometimes it is the current others, so that the heart is now, transformed into a butterfly-like soul, flying in time and role, extending our lives.