Chapter 939: How Can There Be Pure Friendship Between Men and Women
I shook my head and said, "How can this be put aside?" Although I care about the relationship with him, it doesn't mean that I will give up my own principles for the sake of feelings, if because she affects me to make friends with others, I will also consider whether I will continue to be with him, although I will not choose others, but I will also not choose him, I will live with myself for the rest of my life, that's all. ”
Chen Jiaming said with a smile, "Why is it so difficult for yourself!" Don't you want to think about me? How about looking at me like this? Being with me is not a disadvantaged choice, not to mention that I have been thinking about you in my heart, with me, I can avoid this kind of thing, I will not suffer, because I know that I am good enough, you will not choose others, unless I have a problem with myself, you will leave me but I will reflect on myself, myself, if I have any problems, I will try to correct it as actively as possible, instead of feeling sorry for myself and complaining about others, so after we are together, we will never be separated. We are the most suitable. Believe me Lin Sheng, stay with me, you will get what you want, we can, stay and fly together, and never worry about anything else, even if your boyfriend comes to you, you have enough reasons, because he doesn't, cares about you, the reason why he wants to limit your friends, on the one hand, is because he has low self-esteem, and on the other hand, it means that this is a sign that he doesn't love you If he really loves you, even if you want to communicate with other people, he will trust you enough, and really love you and let you do what you like, Unless this kind of thing will put you in danger, otherwise he will never interfere with it, but he does not do this, but has been interfering with you, I don't think he has a deep love for you, on the contrary, he has always wanted to possess you, for him, you are just a plaything for him, if he leaves you, he can continue to live, and you are different, without him you can have a new life, for you, he has always wanted to control you and want to treat you as his own plaything, I never thought about you, and if you were able to leave him, it would be absolutely very lucky for you. ”
Listening to Chen Jiaming's words, some soft places in my heart were touched.
I don't know why, I feel that Chen Jiaming's words are very reasonable, and it seems to touch the side of my heart that has been hazy.
I don't know why, but I always feel that what Chen Jiaming said seems to win my heart, as if this is what I have been thinking about.
But I feel that I am sorry for Xie Yan by doing this, Xie Yan is not inferior as he said, and he also loves me very much.
It's just that due to his own reasons, he can't tolerate me being a little intimate with other people, so she stops me.
But this only makes me feel withdrawn. I know it's not Xie Yan's fault, but I can't forgive him for it.
Maybe both of us should calm down, only by seriously thinking about our past, can we really be down-to-earth, think about whether we should continue to walk, I and Xie Yan are indeed wrong, but there is no question of who is right and who is wrong, if you choose to go down together, then you can give each other a step to correct your own shortcomings, tolerate each other's shortcomings, so that you can continue to be with Meimei.
Both parties who really love each other are not necessarily perfect, but they must be tolerant of each other, everyone can not be perfect, the important thing is to see if the two parties who love each other can tolerate themselves?
If you can tolerate it, no matter how big the shortcomings are, it is not a shortcoming, but the embellishment of the love between the two parties, if the other party can not tolerate it, no matter how small the shortcomings, or even the shortcomings that are not shortcomings, they may become the fuse of the love between the two parties, and eventually their love points people to the final grave.
This kind of grave is not yet a marriage, but a real breakdown. Between the two parties, not only is there no love, but there is also the possibility of hatred because of love, and this kind of relationship is the most frightening.
If there is no love between lovers, I don't know why they can continue to walk together, just because of that promise, just because they don't believe in making demands, separate, if that's the case, it's too selfish, just because they don't dare to take responsibility, they have to reluctantly continue to be together, it's not good for themselves and others, it's better to resolutely separate, so that they and each other can find a good home again, maybe the sooner they separate, the greater the possibility of finding a good home again.
It's just that between me and Xie Yan, it is impossible for any of us to leave anyone, Xie Yan is impossible to leave me, because I am married to him, we are destined to be together for the rest of our lives, and I can't leave him, I know that I am really in love with him, if I leave him, I am destined not to fall in love with anyone else, I can only die alone, that kind of loveless life, I don't want to live a day, even now, I and him are not together all the time, but I do know, We are heart-to-heart, I think of him in my heart, and he thinks of me in his heart, and there is always one person who thinks about himself.
Everyone in this world is lonely, and they are born to be lonely, which is why they are so eager to find their other half, to find a spiritual home.
What is love, love is tolerance and understanding, although Xie Yan has countless shortcomings, but it is not something I can't tolerate, I should learn to tolerate him, and besides, he is jealous because he cares too much about me, and loves me too much to have such words and deeds.
Xie Yan really loves me very much, I felt it at the beginning, unlike Chen Jiaming, who has been hidden for a long time before it is revealed, so that I can't guess his mind at all, and it will really make me feel uneasy.
I am naturally no exception, when I was with Xie Yan, it was initially because of Xie Yan's insistence on his domineering and strongness, which initially scared me, but later I could feel that he gave me real feelings, because he cared too much about me, he would be so hesitant and eager, and then I fell in love with her, that kind of love is from the bottom of my heart, I am a person who is not easy to give love, once I give love, it is vigorous and vigorous, which means that I have given my sincerity to this person, No matter what he does to me, I will not fail him, unless he has no love for me.
But even if he loses me, I won't fail her, because my heart will only fit one person in my life, if I want to fall in love with another person, it is absolutely impossible, because I have a love and cleanliness fetish, spiritual cleanliness, once there is a person in my heart, there will be no other person, even if I am reluctant to love, I will not love happiness, on the contrary, I will feel very painful because of this.
Love is beautiful, but if you are reluctant to love, this beautiful love will often become, a sharper weapon, hurting people invisibly, and the first thing to hurt is your own heart.
The deeper the love, the deeper the hurt, if a person has given too much love, then once this love hurts him, it will be more unforgettable.
Naturally, I don't want to get hurt, but I won't let go, because I know how hard it is to love someone. Eliminate all aspects of resistance, and finally choose to confess to the other party, which will risk being rejected by the other party, once rejected by the other party, not only will the face be disgraced, but when you want to see the other party, you will not be embarrassed at all, and you will not be able to raise your head when you meet the other party again in the future.
Xie Yan's position in my heart is unshakable, just like my position in his heart, you must know that it is not easy for two people to love each other, since they are together, they must cherish each other and understand each other.
The person who takes the initiative first is often humble, because he knows that if he wants to get the love of the other party, he must lower his posture, but this often encourages the arrogance of the other party, because he is confessed, so he is born with an advantage, and he can do whatever he wants? Even if it is direct, it doesn't matter if you return to the absolute side, because if the other party loves you, the other party will definitely use all kinds of means to cater to yourself, he doesn't need to pay anything to get the other party's love, and the other party wants to get his love, so he needs to lower his posture even more.
Therefore, love is a game, if you want to get love, you must pay face and self-esteem. Of course, this is before falling in love, once the two parties in love enter the love stage, then it must be equal, it must be mutual respect, otherwise they will never be happy, happy love is based on equality, once the two sides are not equal, then there is no happiness at all.
Although there is a crisis in the relationship between me and Xie Yan, it does not mean that I will choose others, let alone Chen Jiaming.
The crisis of feelings can be solved, there is no one right or wrong in love, I can only think that I will have problems myself, and I can't attribute all the mistakes to Xie Yan, that would be very unfair to him.
At the beginning, when Xie Yan and I had a conflict because of Chen Jiaming, I said that I would never have anything to do with Chen Jiaming, and I naturally had to stick to my promise.
Although now, Xie Yan misunderstood me because I had something to do with others, but I wouldn't really be willing to fall because of this, and what did I choose to do with Chen Jiaming? That would prove even more that Xie Yan was right, and he was right in doubting me, because I really had that kind of motive.
If I want to become white or want to get out of this state, I have to let myself sit upright, instead of really falling into self-depravity and doing what he wants, which can only represent me and not be trusted.
I know that although Xie Yan is a little stingy, he is not out of nowhere, if it weren't for the fact that I did get too close to Chen Jiaming, Xie Yan would not have been so suspicious.