Facing the embarrassment in interpersonal communication, the embarrassment of breaking the contract in the business field, the embarrassment when asking someone to do something, the noise of the partner, the displeasure and rejection of lovers and lovers, the difficulties of acquaintances and friends, the criticism and accusation of superiors... What to do? Is it a sigh or a warm heart, a clever word? That's when you think of a magic weapon of happiness -- humor, which will make ripples of joy in your life.

Humor is a partner in laughter, and people who can be humorous will bring laughter wherever they go. People who can bring laughter to people are naturally very popular people. So, how can we learn to say humorous things?

Good at associating near and far

An ordinary and inconspicuous thing, in the eyes of humorists, can show the comical and ridiculous elements. The average person may lack this kind of vision, the difference lies in whether you have humorous thinking and whether you are good at associating near and far.

Let's take a look at a few stories.

There is a famous harlequin in Russia named Durov. During an intermission at a performance, a very arrogant audience member walked up to him and sarcastically asked, "Mr. Harlequin, the audience welcomes you very well, right?" ”

"It's fine."

"To be popular in the circus, does a harlequin have to have a stupid and ugly face?"

"That's true." Durov replied, "If I could have a face like yours, I would be able to get a double salary." ”

The face of this arrogant audience has no intrinsic connection with whether Durov can get a double salary, but the humorous Durov skillfully involves them, produces a strong sense of humor, and fights back against this arrogant audience.

One day, Tom's boss shouted angrily at the round table: "If this promotion goes down again, I'm going to throw you into the sea one by one to feed the sharks...... At this time, Tom stood up in a well-dressed manner, turned around and wanted to leave, boss: "Where are you going?" Tom, who was going to the bathroom, improvised and said, "Learn to swim!" Everyone laughed, the tense atmosphere eased immediately, and the boss also laughed: "You bastard! You think I can really bear to throw you into the sea......"

Tom uses improvisational humor. In fact, he carried out a series of rapid mental activities in his head: assuming that throwing into the sea was true, feeding sharks to death, being afraid of death, learning to swim. Maybe it's the fear of drowning, maybe it's the fear of being eaten by sharks, but learning to swim is certainly useful to avoid both dangers. The reason why his words can cause everyone to laugh and have a sense of humor is that he has extraordinary associative skills.

When the monk saw that the scholars were shining, he also went to give it a try. The examiner made a couplet: "The three thousand disciples of the Confucian saint will go down." ”

The monk hurriedly responded: "If the Buddha comes to the five hundred Arhats to go to the western heavens. The examiner made another couplet: "Zi said: self-denial and revenge." ”

The monk lowered his head and thought: "Buddha Dao: Turn back to the shore." The examiner was furious and shouted: "Flag." ”

The monk hurriedly said in a loud voice: "Muyu." ”

The examiner couldn't bear it anymore: "How can this be reasonable, how can this be reasonable." The monk thought the exam was over: "Amitabha, Amitabha." ”

The examiner shouted, "Get out." ”

The monk hurriedly thanked: "Good." ”

This humor is a typical professional radiation method, using the monk's own familiar words to compare the Confucian scriptures, and the comparison is unexpected. The professional consciousness cultivated by the nature of the profession produces associations from near and far, and is full of humor.

Good at making something out of nothing

It refers to the use of a non-existent reason in interpersonal communication, confusing the other party, and people who can say humorous things often find some excuses out of nothing to make the other party believe the truth. Making something out of nothing has two meanings: one is to completely fabricate some facts, and the other is to rigidly link some irrelevant facts to create an illusion relationship. Let's take a look at how the following works out of nothing to create a humorous effect.

One day, Old Man Li bought a scarf for six yuan, while a girl in the neighborhood only spent three yuan. So Old Man Li turned around and went to find the young man who was setting up a stall.

"Hey, you sold it to the girl just now for only three yuan, and you sold it to me for six yuan, what is your reasoning?"

"Because she's a relative of mine."

When Old Man Li heard this, he didn't say a word, picked up another scarf and left. The young man chased after him: "Why don't you leave without paying?" ”

"Because we are relatives, I am the girl's father!"

The young man used strong words and made something out of nothing, and Old Man Li seized the opportunity to concoct it in the same way. The two of them are fake against fake, absurd and humorous. The young man's words were to anger Old Man Li, but Old Man Li also made something out of nothing,-for-tat. The absurdity of framing the relationship between the girl and herself as that of a father-daughter is developed to the extreme, and the ridiculousness drowns out the irritation.

Somewhere, the annual conscription is in full swing. An old man in his fifties wanted to try his luck in order to realize his dream of joining the army when he was young, so he came to the recruit registration office.

"Your age? ......" The staff was puzzled by his intentions.

"I'm fifty-two." The old man replied briskly.

"However, according to the relevant regulations of conscription, you are over the appropriate age." The staff explained.

"Hmmm! Of course I know, but don't you need someone to be a general? The old man asked rhetorically.

The old man's behavior itself is unreasonable, but he is good at seeing the stitches and "finding reason without reason". His unreasonable demands were based on a kind of reverse reasoning: young people were drafted to serve as ordinary soldiers, and generals were generally played by older people, and I myself was quite old, so I had the right to sign up.

Good at grafting

Usually when people communicate or debate, there is a basic requirement, that is, to agree on the meaning of the same concept discussed by both parties, which is logically called "the law of identity", and grafting is to subtly change the concept, contrary to the original meaning. In this way, it also has a humorous effect. Let's illustrate with a few examples.

An officer patrolled the company and was just in time for the soldiers to have lunch.

"How's the food?" The commander asked the soldiers.

"Sir, there's too much dirt in the soup." A mouthy soldier replied.

"You are here to defend the homeland, not to be picky about food!" The chief was very angry and rebuked loudly, "Don't you understand this truth? ”

"Yes," said the soldier respectfully, and then in no uncertain terms, "but not for us to eat the land. ”

The soldiers' food was soon improved.

The meaning of "soil" and "land" is very different, but the soldier can grasp the information of "soil" and develop it, which is closely related to the situation of the country, the loss of the land and the duties of the soldier, which not only reflects a soldier's loyalty to the motherland, but also skillfully achieves the purpose of improving food, and at the same time brings infinite interest to the boring military life.

Sometimes, grafting can also give others a step down, so that the other party can understand the meaning of the words in a smile.

A couple has been married for more than ten years, and every month they have to send living expenses to their parents. This matter has been undertaken by the wife. But the wife sent fifty dollars a month to her parents and twenty dollars to her husband's parents. The husband was always angry, but he didn't want to offend his wife because of this.

In the past, my husband got off work every day and didn't do anything, but always hugged his youngest son first and cared for half a day. But when he came home that day, he saw his one-and-a-half-year-old son crying in the car, but he pretended not to see or hear anything. Uncharacteristically, he walked up to his five-year-old daughter and reached out and hugged her.

The wife, who was cooking, turned her head and saw it, and hurriedly shouted: "My son is crying like that, why don't you hurry up and coax him?" ”

The husband said unhurriedly: "You should hug the twenty yuan!" I'm going to hold fifty dollars. ”

The clever husband humorously and unprincipledly invites his wife into the "trap" of his own preset, without repeating long whining, but hinting at the essence of the matter and his own dissatisfaction.

When the wife heard this, she blushed and sent 50 yuan a month to her husband's parents in the future.