The great French philosopher Rosfoco said: "When a saint talks about himself, if he speaks better than the other, he will turn his friend into an enemy, and vice versa, he can turn an enemy into a friend." ”

Humility can turn enemies into friends

In 1858, Lincoln traveled to the semi-civilized southern state of Illinois to give lectures. We know that Lincoln was a man who advocated the emancipation of the slaves, and that the people of southern Illinois, in the opposite way of thinking about Lincoln, hated the opposition to the slaves as much as they were aggressive and alcoholic. When they heard that Lincoln was going to give a speech, they prepared to make a riot, wanted to drive Lincoln out of the area, and wanted to kill him to vent their anger. Lincoln already knew that it was dangerous to speak in this place, however, he said, "If they are willing to give me a chance to say a few words, I can convince them!" Before he began his speech, he personally went to meet with the leaders of the other party and shook hands with them warmly. Then, with great gentleness, he gave a proper speech. This speech is very famous, and the voice of the speech is very humble and earnest, so that a sinister wave that is about to occur becomes calm. They hated him, but now they turned their hatred into friendship, and they applauded him with angry applause for his speech. Later, this group of rude people became the most enthusiastic supporters of Lincoln when he ran for president.

Learn to boast modestly

For humility, we also want to point out that in this real world, good morals and talents will not be well rewarded if no one knows about them. This is not only deceiving oneself, but also deceiving others, and it is also a low-performance destruction of one's own merits. Therefore, excessive modesty is not a desirable virtue.

Humility, combined with self-identification at the right time, is also one of the ways a person can achieve success.

In daily life, people are accustomed to relish what they are most happy and proud of. In fact, it's sometimes hard to get a warm response to something you're most interested in, and it's funny. "That dispute, if I hadn't solved it for them, I don't know how long it would have been troublesome, you have to know that they don't care about anyone, but they don't dare to be ambiguous in front of me." Even if this dispute was indeed resolved because of your mediation, isn't it more admirable to say "I happened to be there at the time to mediate for them"? When someone finds out about something commendable, people will naturally revere you. But if you don't pay attention to your skills and blindly talk about it, the effect you get will inevitably be scorned or ridiculed or ridiculed by everyone.

If you can't help but want to boast, then it is necessary to know the best way to boast modestly, not to boast about yourself all the time, but to praise the other person while rapping.

For example, when the ladies are together and want to boast about their fur coats, they say, "This is a fox fur coat, it's very warm!" Do you think it's a bit of a luxurious taste? However, the deerskin coat you wear is not bad! Especially the dark green, it's so beautiful! Look at your figure and appearance, no matter what kind of clothes you wear, you look extraordinarily elegant and beautiful!"

Wouldn't it be the best of both worlds to praise and appreciate each other when boasting like this, and to make both the other person and yourself happy?