Leaders and subordinates are generally the relationship between command and obedience. However, if it is something that cannot be achieved by one's own ability, which is detrimental to one's own interests, or the leader does not find the harmful requirements, the subordinate must have the courage to say "no". If you meet a reasonable boss, why don't you learn from Wei Zheng, saying "no" is more likely to win the respect, favor and trust of your boss than blindly obeying and flattering.

I want to get away with it

It is easy for a boss to reject a subordinate, but it is difficult for a subordinate to reject a boss. Because refusal has the potential to make the boss feel that his position is challenged and his majesty is questioned. When the boss makes a request and we don't directly refuse, we can euphemistically state some reasons to deny the basis for supporting his claim, and the reasonable boss will naturally give up his request.

The manager of a company held a discussion to determine a new trademark, which was created by the manager. Ben has already decided. Now it's open, just a little formal, to show democracy.

"Gentlemen, I would like to ask you for your views on the new trademark today, and I invite you to speak with courage. I've picked one here, so please take a look. The manager said and grabbed a piece of paper from the table and raised it, saying, "This Rising Sun trademark, everyone should have no objections." Mr. Michael, what do you think?"

"Good!" Michael, the director of the sales department, replied with a smile.

The manager then asked the directors of several other departments, and they all agreed.

"Mr. Manager, I would like to share my opinion." A young man stood up and said. He was a clerk in the export department, named Smith, and he replaced him as the export manager was negotiating business abroad.

"It's a very good logo that focuses on our trading partner, Japan, but ignores the largest market in Asia, which we are trying to explore. Due to China's special historical relationship, how can Chinese tolerate a trademark like Japan's national emblem appearing in China? So, this trademark is not very well thought out. What do you think? Mr. Manager. ”

The manager was stunned for a moment, pondered for a moment, and then smiled and said: "There is something wrong with this trademark, the trademark has to be redesigned, so it will be handed over to your export department to be responsible, you know the international market better." ”

In this "no", Smith uses a roundabout tactic to get away with it. first praised the trademark for doing a good job, armed with the manager's psychological vigilance, and then skillfully laid out the conclusive facts, weighed the pros and cons of the trademark, and quietly denied it.

In this way, the manager's self-esteem is fully maintained, and the harm of the trademark is pointed out from the overall situation, so that the manager willingly accepts the opinions of his subordinates and gives up his own views.

Self-defeating

Toyotomi Hideyoshi was the regent of the Japanese Mufu era. Under one person, above ten thousand, no one dares to say "no" to him.

Once, Toyotomi Hideyoshi suddenly ordered his subordinates to prepare and go up the mountain with him to pick mushrooms the next day.

This made a group of his subordinates anxious. Now that the mushroom picking season has passed, the mushrooms on the mountain are long gone. But it can't be picked up, and the tiger is powerful, which is not a joke.

The subordinates racked their brains and finally came up with a plan. They went to a nearby village and urgently bought a batch of mushrooms and planted them in the place where Toyotomi Hideyoshi was coming. Early the next morning, Toyotomi Hideyoshi brought his subordinates to pick mushrooms.

"Ahh This mushroom is so good, I didn't expect there to be such a good mushroom now!" Toyotomi Hideyoshi exclaimed.

"Actually, this mushroom was planted overnight last night because they were afraid that the king would not be able to pick it." One of the subordinates took the opportunity to "inform".

Toyotomi Hideyoshi nodded, sighed and said, "I, who was born as a farmer, how could I not see the strangeness in it. Everyone has worked hard all night for me, how can I blame for this hard work? To thank you, let's give these mushrooms to you to taste!"

Faced with this character who no one dared to say "no", the clever subordinates were clever and scheming, so that he automatically gave up his unrealistic needs. The behavior of his subordinates made Toyotomi Hideyoshi understand the hard work of his subordinates. This painstaking effort is also a silent praise for Toyotomi Hideyoshi, praising the power and status he has. He has the position to control the life and death of his subordinates, and they will do whatever it takes to satisfy their wishes. Thinking of this, Toyotomi Hideyoshi naturally felt a sense of psychological satisfaction. The refusal of those subordinates also achieved the effect of praise.

Therefore, when your boss asks you that you can't do it, as long as you do your best to be busy with his request, the leader will generally find that he is asking too much and take the initiative to give up on him. Even if you refuse your boss's request, you will also win his favor.

contradictory

To say no to the leader, we must not only have courage, but also use wisdom, and a courageous refusal will not only fail to achieve the goal, but may also bring disaster to yourself.

Gu Dehuai is a very straightforward person. He used his soldiers like a god, and the "Battle of the Hundred Regiments" killed little Japan and abandoned its armor, and sending troops to Korea made the Yankees even more prestigious. But politically, it seems too simple.

The *** at the end of the fifties dragged the Chinese who had just come out of the sea of suffering into the disaster again. Satellites have been released in various places, and exaggerated sea exaggeration has become a trend. Peng Dehuai saw it in his eyes and was anxious in his heart. Simple and straightforward, he just came back from the Hunan investigation, and he immediately gave Mao ** a book of 10,000 words, fiercely criticizing the shortcomings of the People's Commune and ***, and saying "no" to Mao's current policy.

However, his method was too direct and intense, and Mao ** couldn't listen to the advice at this time. After reading the book of ten thousand words, he began to attack Peng Dehuai.

In contrast, a twelve-year-old boy who said "no" to Qin Shi Huang, the most violent emperor in Chinese history, was appreciated. Historical legend has it that little Ganluo worshiped Shangqing at the age of twelve, and Qin Shi Huang's evaluation of him was "the wisdom of the son is greater than his body". These may all stem from a debate between him and Qin Shi Huang about "roosters laying eggs".

Qin Shi Huang listened to Fang Shigong's words that eggs could live forever, so he ordered Ganluo's grandfather to go and find them.

"Grandpa, do you have anything on your mind?" Gan Luo saw his frowning grandfather walking around the room, so he stepped forward and asked.

"Alas, the emperor listened to the words of the priest and wanted to eat male eggs in order to live forever. Now command me to look for it, and if I don't find it within three days, I will be punished. ”

When Gan Luo heard this, he also became anxious. But he had an idea. "Grandpa, you don't have to worry about this matter anymore, I will go to the court for you in three days, and I have a way to deal with the emperor." After listening to Ganluo's words, his grandfather, who had always trusted him, was relieved.

When the deadline had come, Gan Luo walked into the palace with a group of adults unhurriedly.

Qin Shi Huang knew him, and secretly thought that it was rude for a child to run into the palace, so he asked angrily: "What are you doing here?" Is it that your grandfather can't find the eggs and dare not come?"

"Your Majesty, my grandfather can't come." Gan Luo said calmly, "He gave birth at home, so I am the only one who will go to court for him." ”

"Nonsense!" One sentence amused Qin Shi Huang, "You child, how can a man have a child?"

"If a rooster can lay eggs, why don't men have children?" Ganro asked rhetorically.

When Qin Shi Huang heard this, he naturally knew that he was wrong. At the same time, he also saw that Gan Luo was not simple, so he hired him exceptionally.

Xiao Ganluo used the fallacy method to make Qin Shi Huang make his own views contradict himself, no matter how ruthless he is, he is also a reasonable person, of course he will not reject Ganluo's "No". If Mr. Peng could learn from Ganluo and think of an idea to let Mao ** see the contradictions between those "satellites" and the facts, not only might he not be affected, but China's history would have to be rewritten.