Now, those people have come back to gnaw at her heart, and she is not afraid, but she is willing to bow her head and repent. In a sense, Xiao Han lives more transparently than me, and he lives harder than me. It may be that you push too hard, and in the end your life will deviate from the direction. If a person has lost money in a certain aspect, it is easy to lose all his money.

Whether it's marriage or making money, it's all the same. In addition to hard work and hard work, the biggest capital under a person is really not too much energy. Otherwise, it is easy to be psychologically unbalanced, and Xiao Han finally realized this truth, it may be too late.

I knew that I would do my duty and be a down-to-earth person, and fate would not treat anyone badly. Destiny is fair and just to all, without preference or prejudice. Everything is nothing more than self-artificiality, and nothing more than others.

One night, I chatted with Xiao Han and asked this question, Xiao Han lowered her head, I thought she would cry, but no, Xiao Han looked calm.

She said she had no regrets.

At this point, after a slight pause, I'll wait for the rest of the story.

"No regrets." Again, she emphasized. "How so? It's useless to regret it. The most important thing is that if it weren't for these past events, I wouldn't be where I am today. ”

Xiao Han reached out and pulled his long hair back, then looked at me with a smile.

"Don't want to be a virgin, you can't save sentient beings."

The two of us laughed. This topic has been put aside. I know what she's talking about, there are always so many regrets in life, so many embarrassments, instead of regrets, it's better to look forward, the past is unattainable, the present is unattainable, and the future is unattainable.

It was only in middle age that I finally realized the essence of this sentence in the "Diamond Sutra". Every second of life is the present, and every second of the heart is also in the present. After all, what the human heart can carry is limited, and sometimes we can't even grasp the present, let alone the past or the future, it is all delusion and obsession.

The hearts of men must be determined. I'm still not good at cultivating now, and I don't know where to set this mind. Later, I once asked a master, and the master said that if you don't move, it is for Vajra.

I still don't understand it too much, it's too profound, it's about the broader and broader issues, it's just about the big picture, it's about the subtleties. I remember turning my head to look at the Master and continuing to ask, "Doesn't Buddhism also teach people to be aware of subtle changes in their thoughts?" I'm not afraid to read it, I'm only afraid to be late.

Master smiled slightly, and did not explain again.

I think, or I still have some wisdom roots, although the master has not spit out a word, but I feel as if I have gained a lot, and I seem to understand whether I understand or not, but as if I have seen something similar to light and light in my confusion, as long as I keep walking towards the light in my heart, people should be able to see the smooth road they want to see.

At the very least, don't think too much, don't worry too much, don't worry too much, and don't expect too much from everything.

In traditional Chinese medicine, the heart is the main god. The so-called six gods have no master. When the heart is in chaos, God is in chaos, God is in chaos, and there is a good one? Let a man control his own heart. The heart grows in our body, and this little meat/dumpling, although small, hides a thousand things, and also hides good and evil, and a thousand

It's really elusive and hard to manage.

I was too young before. has such an inexplicable confident preset for love. For example, you must understand what is going on in my heart, feel sad or happy that the other party did not guess your thoughts, always feel that you are the only one in the world, and often love to feel self-pity. Now that I think about it, there are still most of the elements of hypocrisy.

Saying that hypocrisy may be that he is merciful to himself, and he is not wise enough. Many women spend their lives asking how to make themselves happier. In fact, it is not limited to women, everyone is looking for answers to make themselves happy. Until now, if there are still people who don't mind their background, their feelings, and the environment they encounter is unfair to them. In that life, the probability of him encountering ordinariness and injustice will be greater, not to mention the law of attraction. In fact, it is easier for wise people to obtain happiness, and with wisdom, it is possible to understand the truth of this world, so that they will not be intimidated by the so-called fate, and they will not go with the flow or complain about others.

There is humanity in man, and there is a way in heaven. The way of heaven is difficult for mortals to figure out, but they must always do their best to listen to the destiny of heaven. If you can't be a good person in the first place, and you can't do your part, why should you ask for it from heaven or fate?

Xiao Han told me that she used to care about the result, but now she is indifferent. Because all the laws of birth and death in the world, the origin and extinction, the gains and losses of success and failure, the process is controllable, but the result is actually not controllable.

Why did someone end up in vain? Why do some people only ask about hard work, work silently, and never think about what to achieve, but in the end they reap a lot of rewards?

I did, and then I discussed the harvest. Now what is wrong with people's love to make it, and if they haven't done it yet, they will first talk to others about the conditions. The price is not low.

I am now in charge of two companies, I feel powerless, in the past, there were Adong, Gao Tiancheng, and Wan Qian, these people were around me and helped me share a lot, I didn't feel much when they were there, once they all let go, I was overstretched.

I once told Xiao Han that once I almost made me tired and cry. But I found that at my age, I couldn't cry at the company, and I couldn't cry to my two children at home, so I had to hold back.

Xiao Han laughed at the time and said, those who hold back and take it for granted are still generals, and those who hold back and hold back their perverts will not be a big deal like that.

I was convinced by what she said. So pray that you will eventually be the former and not the latter.

I used to think that I could manage the galaxy by myself, but now I see that people are really self-aware. The two companies have already made me hit the back of the head with my foot, and the food is tasteless.

To be able to feel that he is wise, and to be able to realize that he is wise.

A wise person will never live badly.

The company's business is difficult to move forward, and it is difficult for manpower to continue, not to mention the iron battalion, the flowing soldiers, it is inevitable that there will be personnel replacement, and the personnel department is not effective.

The man was in his early thirties, female, and seemed to be quite shrewd and capable. No

After a while, I didn't talk about it, and I blew myself into a dazzle, and I gave her a chance, but when I encountered a problem, I had to jump and complain to me that other departments and personnel did not cooperate with her.

"If everyone cooperates with you unconditionally, everyone has a boss mentality, and they all regard this company as their own home, why should I spend a lot of money to ask you? If you don't cooperate, let him cooperate, and if you can't do it, you have to work hard to get it, this is your duty. Everything can only be solved by me, the boss, so you are just my fox and fake tiger, what is the use of me? ”

But then I read a book, "The Fifteenth Year of Wanli". In a certain year, "In the Name of the People" was very popular, and someone in the play strongly recommended this book, so I took it to take a look, only to know that Zhang Juzheng's highest level of managing people is only cronyism, excluding dissidents and fox fake tigers.

Therefore, when Chinese talk about management, they can never get rid of this servile thinking, they will form circles and fixed thinking upwards, many people are still in the state of getting the boss done, as long as the boss is done, one person can be above, under ten thousand people, many things are not good enough, some people have opinions and dare not be angry, so many private enterprises have stopped cooking, it is difficult to become a climate.

But then again, you can't blame these people for their smuggling skills, because he wants to survive, and he wants to survive better than most people, and his business ability is limited, so he has to meet the horses.

Soil bar.

It doesn't matter if you manage a dynasty or a business. "The unscrupulous still know the fear, and the sage has to return" This is already a very difficult height to achieve, and then think about the same heart, in fact, most of the time it is an ideal state.

We often take things for granted how things should be. I used to make that mistake a lot. Later I learned that it was almost impossible to achieve. No one is supposed to be what it should be, and nothing is supposed to be what it should be.

Ideals must be there, but fantasy and ideals must be distinguished from each other. The ideal state is naturally the best state, and if you can't reach it for a while, don't show your hideous face, and wait patiently for the opportunity.

There is basically no such thing as an overnight achievement, and if it seems to be achieved overnight on the surface, you don't know how many years of preparation or effort people have made in the early stage. Many people in the world have this problem: they can only watch thieves eat meat, but they can't see thieves being beaten.

There is no unearned gain. Everyone has to work hard or barely reach their slightly realistic goals. As for the unrealistic goals of getting rich overnight, it is basically impossible to achieve.

Looking back now, sometimes I can't help but laugh. I remember when I first divorced Huaihai, I also had such thoughts, I really felt so difficult at that time, everything was not controlled by myself, and I couldn't see hope, and I didn't know when I would be a leader. So almost every day, I will buy welfare lottery tickets, hoping to get rich overnight, and I once thought that I won a lot of money, and then gave Huaiping a very good life, so that all his classmates were envious, jealous and hateful, and would take the money to Huaihai to show off, so that he regretted it.

Oh, it was so naïve back then.

The most important thing is when

I don't feel like I'm wrong.

At that time, I was at the bottom of the company, intriguing with people. Now I'm on top, balancing the relationship below. Sometimes they think they have done it fairly, but in fact it is impossible, and there is always a preference in people's hearts. And in a huge company, the top level is eight arms to the sky, after all, the energy is limited, and there are still places that you can't see. In those places that cannot be illuminated by the top, there will be people who will have a chasm on you, thinking that you are a mediocre and unscrupulous king, and they will lead the way with a little bit.

When I was an employee, I thought that the boss was high and didn't need to worry about anything, and I could cover everything with one hand.

When I became a leader, I realized that being a boss is actually more difficult than an employee. Employees can mix, and once the leader starts to mix, the employees below will be more mixed than the leader. If the employee understands it and does a good job, it will be done. However, leaders must not only control the dynamics of employees at any time, understand all employees, but also understand current affairs, politics, economy, and competitors, and maintain a stable appearance on both sides of government and business. Which boss is not stepping on the balance beam, a little carelessness may fall into the abyss.

If the part-time worker is stressed, the boss is even more stressed. I remember that my mother once said something to me when she was there, and I remember that to this day, her old man said: People, in this life, it is not easy to see others, and it is not easy to see yourself.

It is always easier for people to see their hardships. The so-called empathy, the fundamental theory of human nature, in fact, few people can really do it, most of the time it is just that we think we have done it.

(End of chapter)