A really good relationship is effortless, just like the innocent friendship between Li Jia, Qiu Lang, Keiko, Fu Bo and Han Yi.

In fact, the best state of getting along with people is: getting along without getting tired and effortless. When two people are chatting, they don't need to deliberately create topics, they don't need to change their personalities to cater to each other, they just enjoy the comfort of the moment.

With someone who is comfortable, you throw a stalk, and the other party picks it up effortlessly, not deliberately, nor bent to welcome. It's like a ball that can be scored while standing still, and it's a fun chat. Even if two people don't say a word for a day together, they do their own things quietly, he plays games, you watch dramas, and there is no trace of discomfort and embarrassment.

Comfort is a high requirement for a relationship, those heart-rending love, those competitive friendships, in the end, all give way to a long stream of water and gentle words.

"Friends" is an enduring TV series about the friendship and love between six young people with different personalities and different experiences. This TV series has been called "one of the best TV dramas in history" for ten years after its launch.

The reason why it has been so successful is that these six young people have created a cozy and warm atmosphere. Even if they don't do anything, as long as they sit in the café and do their own work, it makes people feel very comfortable.

Among these people, Phoebe is a very strange person, she has a very special experience, she lost her parents when she was a child, wandered the streets, and did not go to school.

Phoebe always behaves incomprehensibly and says something unbelievable, but her friends never think she's a weirdo.

Phoebe doesn't need to change her personality to fit into the small group, but she can live comfortably in this small group.

This is the best friend relationship that "Friends" brings to us, you are who you are, you don't have to force yourself to cater to others, and others don't think you're weird.

Whether it's friendship or love, it's important to get along effortlessly.

Daniel, a British stand-up comedian, once asked his elders, why did your marriage last so long? Without exception, the elders' replies were all asking Daniel to change some of his own places and cater to the other party.

Daniel, of course, did so, and he changed his personality to cater to the other side, meet the other person's requirements, and live in the other person's standards.

But he was not happy at all, and later Daniel realized that if in a relationship, you need to change yourself and ravage your soul to maintain, then it is not a good relationship.

There are 7.5 billion people on this earth, and you can find someone who never gets tired of getting along for a long time and has no trouble getting along with.

If you don't live up to the perfection that the other person imagined, it's not your fault.

Just like the writer Su Cen said: A really good relationship is effortless. There is no need to deliberately please, work hard, and the two of them are already comfortable with nature.

Just like a pair of keys and locks, use the right key to open the right lock, no need to twist it hard, just a "click" and you will naturally know that it is the right lock.

You don't have to be aggrieved, you don't have to be reckless, you don't have to pretend, you don't have to be comfortable, you don't have to work hard.

There is such a sentence in "Ahri, Forever Standing": We will meet 8263563 people in our lives, 39,778 people will greet us, we will be familiar with 3,619 people, and we will be close to 275 people, but in the end, we will be scattered in the sea of people.

If you don't owe each other, how can you see each other?

Since birth, we have been dealing with all kinds of people. And some people just glance at it in a hurry, some people go around and around in life and leave, and some people stay with each other for a lifetime.

In this life, I don't know more than a hundred or a thousand people, I don't know a few people, and I only know one person. It is a great fate to know each other from the hundreds of millions of people on the earth, and it is even more precious to be able to meet some beautiful or interesting things together.

It happens to be you, it happens to be me, and it happens to be that we have a story.

The beauty of life is precisely this kind of encounter. Among thousands of people, there is no one step ahead, no one step slower, just the right age, meet the right person.

As the saying goes: it takes a moment to reach out, but it takes many years to hold hands. No matter who you meet, he is the person you should be in your life, and it is no accident.

That's right, all encounters are fate. "If there is no cause, how can we meet, and if there is no debt, how can we meet."

Maybe it's a farewell that I couldn't achieve in my previous life, or maybe it's an unknown fate in the dark.

In the eyes of Li Jia, who sees more clearly and is very aggressive, those who appear in life will bring them something to a greater or lesser extent, joy or regret. The right person brings love and warmth, and the wrong person teaches her to be strong and grow, and it will eventually become a beautiful scenery in the long years.

Therefore, if you encounter her crying, you will not mind it too much, it will always pass, and it will always lead her to a better place. Just use the attitude of "thank you for coming, don't regret you leaving" to face the regrets in life.

Even if sometimes, beauty is as short-lived as a flash in the pan, then don't panic, just remember that beautiful moment. Cherish every encounter, let it go with the wind, accept parting calmly, and gladly accept new encounters.

In the vast sea of people, it is not easy to meet, and finally, thank you for every encounter at the right time, thank everyone who accompanies her, and believe that the best will come at the right time.

If Han Yi and Bai Xue could be like her, they might sit down calmly and work together to resolve the conflicts between them.

It is undeniable that they love each other, but in fact, judging from the current situation, they do not love each other much.

For Bai Xue in the past, if she really likes someone, she should be shy and dare not confess, because she always feels that she is not worthy of him. But he was eager to catch up with him, and when he sent messages, he kept talking, but after meeting, he stopped talking; Leaving with a silent smile, there are thousands of words tumbling in his heart.

Therefore, if you really like a person, you will weigh the pros and cons and hesitate for a long time, and would rather lurk around him for many years than say a word easily, because you are afraid that something wrong will be seen by him, and you are also afraid of leaving a stain on his heart.

When Li Jia's wrist was injured, Bai Xue went over to accompany her as soon as she was free, first, she was ashamed and blamed herself, and secondly, she was afraid that she would be lonely alone. In fact, she knows that it is Bai Xue who is afraid of loneliness, and she is also happy to be by her good sister's side.

At that time, the two of them invariably sighed: The best love in the world is not that the prince marries the princess, nor is it that Bai Fumei is rich and handsome, but that you are obviously waiting for a talented poet, but you were stolen by the thugs on the street, and you originally wanted to capture a small bacon, but you fell into the secret fragrance of the old bacon. You've set hundreds of standards, but one of his smiles has disrupted the order.

Li Jia never thought that she would fall in love with the honest and honest Feng Zhiyao, but the fate of love happened naturally. Bai Xue, who was in love at the beginning, was also dizzy by the big meteorite of love, clicked on the dialog box with Han Yi countless times, deleted a large paragraph of the written sentence countless times, and finally became the dispensable "Hi".

Although she knew that he wouldn't be able to reply in seconds, she still expected the phone screen to light up instantly, and even sometimes you deliberately muted the phone in anger, but she still leaned towards him for a long time.

After a year of hesitation in her crush, she finally decided to give it a go, because there was nothing to be ashamed of liking someone, but the truth was that it was very uncomfortable to be rejected. At that moment, it was as if a basin of cold water had been poured over her head, and she turned away in a panic, squeezing out a disobedient smile into the sad air.

How many people are depressed when their feelings are frustrated, and they feel like the whole world has collapsed and disintegrated.

During the day, when everything in the universe is working, your brain is also in a tense state, but when a few glasses of wine are down, your head is enchanted by alcohol, allowing you to cry, laugh, laugh and fight. As the saying goes, when you're drunk, you spit out the truth, but you know, you may just be there and don't say it.

Actually, she said, I didn't like him very much. Yes, he just appears in my dreams every day, and he will be in a trance when he eats spicy hot crayfish, and he will shed a few tears when he watches a movie and is nervous.

She also said that she had known that I would be willful a few more times, and now there is no one to play with me, how can he leave like this? I'm still here, where do you think he's gone?

Sometimes alcohol is really a good thing to make a liar tell the truth and also to bring a prodigal son to tears.

Those experiences of using wine to dispel sorrows are not only Han Yi, but also Bai Xue.

Sometimes, they will pretend that they don't care in order not to hurt their face, obviously their hearts are already sour, and they have to show a particularly calm feeling in front of the other party; Obviously worried to death, and pretended that he was having a very chic past few days.

Man, that's it, used to say things against your will to disguise yourself, thinking that as long as you don't show it, you will never be discovered, but your eyes, your body, betray yourself.

Xue Zhiqian sang in the song: It may be that the current feelings are too precious, so that the people who pay their hearts are so tired, who has not used humble words, and who wants to keep them.

Maybe it's because you're tired, so you suppress the throbbing in your heart when you face the person you like, pretend to dislike him when you like him a hundred points, and it takes a whole year to drive him out of your dreams after the breakup.

Even if it's already known that you like him.

In life, we often do stupid things to cover our ears and steal the bell.

You don't like him that much, so you're still holding the phone and stupidly waiting for his news; If you don't like him so much, you won't lose 20 pounds crazy because of his words; If you don't like him that much, you won't secretly inquire about him after he says they broke up. We've all been fools like this in love.

If you are afraid of heights, you accompany him to ride a roller coaster, go bungee jumping, and go mountain climbing. Since I got up in the early morning, I have carefully dressed up, carrying a large backpack that does not match my figure, and I am panting and walking to a higher place, and when I am about to reach the top, he calls you from a high place to 'come', you look at the unforeseen height, look at him in high spirits, and begin to walk back.

You say to everyone you meet, "Look, I don't like him that much. "However, everyone understands why you climbed that high in the first place.

In "Journey to the West", the Supreme Treasure after wearing the golden hoop said something to Zixia Fairy, he said: "Girl, I do know a friend named Supreme Treasure, and he also has some words for me to bring to a person named Zixia Fairy, he said that he has returned to the former place, and I hope that you can find a wishful husband as soon as possible." ”