Host: "Then do you mean that women go to good universities in order to meet good men?" ”

Yang Sumei: "It's not just like this, but the chances will be greater." ”

Host: "Then what do you think is the purpose of reading?" Is it so that you can find a job with a higher salary in the future? ”

Yang Sumei: "I think the best answer to why reading a book is that it gives you more choices." If you know more things, then you won't have to worry about the company going out of business or being fired, you won't have to swallow your anger in a work atmosphere you don't like for a meager salary, you won't have to worry about no one wanting you if you want to change jobs, you can shine anywhere you are gold. How lucky it would be if you found something you really liked in the process of learning. You like the job you choose, and you make it your hobby, not a means of earning a living. You work and you are happy, you will have a sense of accomplishment, you will have self-confidence, you will have dignity, you will have wealth. ”

Moderator: "How do you think as a parent should keep your children interested in learning?" ”

Yang Sumei: "It's very simple, don't compare him with other children. When you dislike him for not being as good as other children, have you considered whether you yourself are good at other parents? If your child asks you why you are not as rich as other parents? Why aren't you as beautiful as so-and-so's mother? How do you feel? How do I answer? ”

"Also, don't belittle him in front of a child, let alone belittle him in front of others, hit his self-confidence, say that he is stupid, he will believe it and become inferior, which will make him have a shadow in his life and feel that he is inferior to others. Children have self-esteem and face, if you count him down in front of others and expose his shortcomings, maybe your unintentional words can ruin his life. You are the child's parents, you want him to become a dragon and a phoenix, he is your baby, you love him very much, why are you reluctant to praise him? You praise him in front of everyone, you praise him for working hard, and although the results are not satisfactory, you are still proud of him. When you praise him so that he himself feels embarrassed to be lazy anymore, and he doesn't want to live up to your expectations and secretly cheer up, then your goal has been achieved. Learning is to see if I have the motivation and the spirit of not admitting defeat, and my parents nagging in his ear all day long will only backfire. ”

"It's the same if a woman wants to maintain a harmonious family life with her husband, not to compare him with other men, but also to give him enough face in front of outsiders. If you are dissatisfied with him, you can scold him as much as you want when you get home and close the door, but don't hurt his self-esteem in front of others, so that he can't get off the stage. Women are the same, right? If your partner hurts you in front of your friends or relatives, saying that you don't cook well, don't like to clean your room, and dress sloppily, you shouldn't be able to stand it! As a human being, everyone needs to be respected. ”

Host: "Then do you think that after a woman gets married, she should quit her job with her husband and children as the focus?" ”

Yang Sumei: "I don't agree with this approach, for women, their husbands and children are just a part of their lives, not the whole of life." I said earlier that there must be a certain economic foundation to have children for a reason, children grow up quickly, I hope that all mothers have the funds and time to give them a happy childhood, so after they are born, they can quit their jobs to concentrate on taking care of them, accompanying them, and witnessing their growth. After they go to school, they go back to work. ”