When people get old, they become dim, "eccentric", and "unkind", and Chen Siping has a deep understanding of this. The mother was sober for a while, confused for a while, and when she was sober, she was no different from usual, her temper came up, she scolded Huai, picked her nose and picked her eyes, she was silent when she was confused, she was more forgetful than anyone else, she didn't know how to be hungry when she ate, and she didn't know how to turn it upside down.

Whether sober or confused, no matter how Chen Siping persuaded her, her mother seemed to have a psychological shadow and refused to see a doctor. Chen Siping had no choice but to go to the hospital by himself, register and wait, find the doctor before, and ask for his mother. The doctor's attitude was kind, but there was no good way, the top priority was to persuade her mother to go to the hospital for examination, and then treat after diagnosis, which was exactly what Chen Siping could not do for her.

As the days passed, Chen Siping studied while taking care of his mother, and his life didn't seem to change much, but in fact a lot changed. He unconsciously became the "pillar" of the family, no longer relying on his mother for everything, and many times crossed the river by feeling the stones and making his own ideas.

He continued to transcribe the notes left by his father. Some of the words speak to the heart, making him feel that it is too late to see each other.

"It is said that when parents see their children happy, they feel heartfelt joy and appreciate the beauty of life, but this is only before going to school. At the beginning of the sorrow of reading in life, children carry their schoolbags to school, come back without doing homework, just watch TV and play games, they are very happy, and parents will still feel the heartfelt joy and understand the beauty of life?

"We are often duplicitous, saying 'I want to give you a happy childhood', but in our hearts we can't wait for 48 hours a day, go to school and listen carefully, go home and do homework seriously, practice the piano and learn painting seriously on holidays, seven will and eight will know, and it is best to be proficient in all kinds of martial arts, but we will not let you play happily and heartlessly. Why?

"Parents educate their children in this way, and use this to justify themselves and relieve the hidden guilt in their hearts - learn more things now, have a good job in the future, have time to play, and have as much fun as they want. Regardless of whether there is an inevitable connection between 'learning more' and 'having a good job', 'growing up' means an extra burden, exhaustion, and a life of your own. Everyone is an adult, old and young, shouldering the burden of life, going out early and returning late to earn two hard-earned money, so this kind of talk has to deceive children, and even they can't fool themselves.

"Be honest, tell the truth. Parents only need their children to be 'good', whether he is happy or not, fortunately or not, in fact, it is not important, at least not the most important. It's best if you can have the best of both worlds, but if you can't, 99.9% of parents will put 'good' first. The reason is very simple, we are all members of society, a member of the group, the child is 'good', which means that it conforms to the mainstream values, conforms to the mainstream values, and has the advantage of choosing a mate in the group.

"People are the carriers of genes, they are the slaves of genes, it doesn't matter whether we are happy or not, happy or not. Contrary to the nature of children to be fun, hidden behind the love and teachings of parents, inducing them to benefit, moving them with affection, knowing them with reason, coercing them with power, carrots and sticks, we consciously or unconsciously, trying to make children 'good' all kinds of behaviors, are the product of natural selection, and all the roots lie in those invisible and intangible genes.

"Faye Wong has a song, "You're Happy, So I'm Happy", to be honest, the song is not very good, it's not my dish, but the phrase 'You're happy, so I'm happy' is really good. When will we be able to get rid of our innate limitations and treat our children with simple and pure feelings? ”

Some of the words made him feel melancholy.

"Gene expression traits. Some traits are the direct expression of genes, such as blonde hair and blue eyes, and some traits are the result of a combination of genes and the environment, such as obesity. Some people don't grow meat no matter how they eat, and some people get fat when they drink water, and the difference depends on genes. In addition to genes, the influence of the environment is also indispensable, primitive people who chase wild beasts with spears do not need to think about losing weight, only today when food is extremely abundant, obesity has become a problem.

"Natural selection retains favourable traits and excludes harmful traits, and here the beneficial and the harmful are aimed only at reproduction and have nothing to do with the feelings of the individual. If a trait increases the chances of reproduction, even if it causes a lot of pain and inconvenience, it will spread rapidly within the population, and will not be transferred by the will of the individual, and will be passed on from generation to generation.

"Not all traits are the result of natural selection, and there are three situations in which the great scissors of natural selection can be circumvented: neutral traits, which are neither beneficial nor harmful, are inherited in a random manner; traits that are not expressed in the evolutionary natural environment (e.g., the example of obesity); Deleterious traits, but due to a combination of genes, expressed at the same time as another, more favorable trait, natural selection has to retain the deleterious trait while retaining the favorable trait.

"As a special trait, mental state is also the result of the combined action of genes and environment, and many mental problems are not expressed in the 'natural environment', just like obesity, which is a typical 'modern disease'. In recent years, mental problems such as autism, depression, hyperactivity, and mania have increased year by year, mainly due to two reasons.

"First of all, the general social environment has become more intolerant than before, and the universal values of the world do not accept any deviation from the 'normal' state of mind, stifling the diversity of mental traits. In fact, many problems will be solved naturally over time, but we are often in a hurry and replace patience and tolerance with medication.

"Secondly, the one-child policy has caused parents to pay too much attention to their children, and under natural conditions we will turn our attention to the second, third or even fourth child, objectively 'ignoring' the first child, which is the stage that must be experienced in growth. But the only child is not 'ignored' when it needs to be 'ignored', and the attention of parents has tightened the judgment boundary of 'normal', which may have been just 'stupid' in the past, and laughed it off, but today it is autism, depression, ADHD, mania, and of course, psychologists and education experts have also played a role in fueling the fire, intentionally or unintentionally.

"It's a pluralistic world, and it's a pity that our perceptions, the perceptions of society as a whole, haven't changed appropriately, science and technology have enriched our lives, but human care remains barren."