Oriental Siyi recalls the Austrian psychoanalyst Sigmund Freud's understanding of mental anxiety, Freud believed that internal and external stimuli threaten the self and are the root cause of anxiety. How many internal and external stimuli did Liu Jiabao, who chose to flee, experience, and what kind of internal and external stimuli did he experience before he felt like he was about to collapse? It seems that only in him himself will there be a real answer.

Dongfang Siyi comforted Ma Huijuan, who was almost on the verge of collapse: "Please sit down and talk slowly." You don't have to worry about it, maybe you have your thoughts, he has his troubles. He was a middle-aged man, and if it was as he meant in his letter, perhaps there was something in his heart that no outsiders knew or felt. ”

Dongfang Siyi said: "Let's not discuss the reason why he ran away from home for the time being, as for the trial of the case you are concerned about, because of the need to add some public notice time during the trial, the trial cycle of this case will naturally be extended, about a year." What I don't understand is that you say you can be regarded as childhood sweethearts, then, you should know each other, why did this end happen? Is it because of the lack of communication? Or is it because there are other reasons? ”

Looking at Dongfang Siyi's inquiring eyes, Ma Huijuan sighed: "I am in the same class as him, and I am the kind of classmate who is in the same class from elementary school to middle school. I thought I knew him very well, but now I realize that what I see is not the real him. I still haven't been able to get into his heart. In the past few days, I have been suffering from insomnia all night long, thinking a lot. I don't regret filing for divorce, but I shouldn't have chosen to file for divorce at this time. He has his fault, and I have mine. Having come to this point, I can only say that he and I have been out of tune for a long time, and it is difficult to stick to it together. ”

Ma Huijuan and Liu Jiabao were born in the same community and are the same age. From primary school to middle school, Liu Jiabao was recognized as a top student among their classmates, and Ma Huijuan was their recognized class flower.

Heroes are matched with beauties, and class flowers are matched with school tyrants, which is a matter of course in their opinion. In the eyes of the friends who are just starting to fall in love, there is no objection to this. However, because Liu Jiabao is very introverted, Ma Huijuan always approaches him in a different way and takes the initiative to discuss all kinds of strange problems with him, but Liu Jiabao has no feelings for Ma Huijuan, and often makes Ma Huijuan sulk secretly.

It wasn't until they got married that Ma Huijuan was still worried about it, and counted Liu Jiabao 1510 and said: "They all say that you have a high IQ, but in fact you are a nerd." Do you think I don't understand those questions? I'm just going to give you a chance, but you're like an elm head, and your EQ is too low. It was only at this time that Liu Jiabao finally understood the careful thoughts she had had.

After graduating from Liujiabao University, when she was assigned to the municipal branch of a large state-owned enterprise, Ma Huijuan was also admitted to the government agency and became a civil servant through her own efforts.

One day, the two of them finally met in the same city park.

When she appeared in front of Liu Jiabao's eyes in a flashy manner, he widened his eyes and felt a little surprised and a little incredulous, but Ma Huijuan was secretly proud of the encounter he had designed. Because she has been learning about his studies and work through the information between her classmates, including his habits. And he seemed to be in the dark, knowing nothing about her.

When talking about this love past, Ma Huijuan temporarily forgot the troubles she was experiencing, and a subtle smile appeared on the corner of her mouth, she didn't want to hide her smugness in front of Dongfang Siyi: "Liu Jiabao became my captive, but he was willingly captured." ”

Ma Huijuan indulged in the happiness of her first marriage: "After getting married, Liu Jiabao listened to me for everything at home and abroad. He doesn't pay much attention to the subtleties in life, of course he has to listen to me after he gets married, from buying a house, decorating a house, to dressing and eating, he has no opinions. At first, he was also happy, but then he slowly developed some emotions, thinking that I was too much to manage, and he began to be dissatisfied, saying that I was a housekeeper, and I said that I was just a nanny. Dissatisfaction is dissatisfaction, and he still listens to me. ”

Ma Huijuan paused, and then continued to talk about the past with Liu Jiabao: "In terms of work, he still listens to me. The business of local state-owned enterprises is under the management of higher-level companies, but the party organization is subordinate to local management. I saw the information on the study and training of party members and cadres of the Party School of the Municipal Party Committee, and felt that it was an opportunity for him, so I decided to help him. At first, he was a little disgusted, but I eventually convinced him. As it turned out, I was right, and his ability to move into leadership was largely related to attending this training. ”

From Ma Huijuan's account, Dongfang Siyi seems to see the shadow of Liu Jiabao, who is submissive in front of his wife. "Does he like it?" Dongfang Siyi tried to raise a question in a casual tone.

Ma Huijuan was stunned for a moment, and then said with certainty: "He has no reason not to like it, what man is not eager to succeed?" Isn't the pursuit of higher goals the motivation of a man's work? Unless this man is willing to be a man who does nothing. I look down on such a man. In my eyes, a man must have a high ideal, a man without ideals is a soulless walking corpse, a man must also have an adventurous spirit, and a man without an adventurous spirit is a vulgar coward. ”

Dongfang Siyi faintly felt the daily life scene of this family, what Liu Jiabao had to experience every day was that he had to face a shadowless but ubiquitous ruler, whether he wanted it or not, that ruler would stand in front of his eyes.

Dongfang Siyi remembered the Internet buzzword: "I'm so hard." I couldn't help but smile. Ma Huijuan asked suspiciously, "Don't you agree with my point of view?" Do you think I'm not right? ”

Dongfang Siyi explained: "I didn't say whether what you said was right or not, you have your views and your understanding, and I can't deny these views you say, and if you can't deny them, you can't say that your views are wrong." I just think that we can't impose our own ideas and perceptions on another person, because everyone has everyone's needs. ”

Ma Huijuan shook her head: "I didn't impose my own concepts and understanding on others, Liu Jiabao is my husband, before the divorce, he was not an outsider, nor was he an independent person, he should be one with me, and I have the right to ask him to do everything I want." ”

Ma Huijuan continued to defend herself: "You don't know, he was originally a very self-motivated person, but then he became more and more depressed for some reason. I sometimes feel like he's like a spinning top, if you don't pump it, it won't spin; Sometimes it feels like a nail, and if you don't hammer it, it won't drill into it. I was disappointed that this was a man's depravity, and that if he continued like this, he would have to do nothing for the rest of his life. ”

Dongfang Siyi remembered Maslow's famous quote again: For a person who only has a hammer, everything he encounters looks like a nail. Dongfang Siyi looked at Ma Huijuan and asked, "When you first mentioned him, you said that he has his fault, you have yours, where do you think he is wrong?" Where are you wrong? ”

Ma Huijuan calmed down: "I did think about this issue seriously. He has his good qualities, otherwise I wouldn't have married him. His good thing is that he has a strong ability to learn, no matter what kind of knowledge, as long as he is interested, he will quickly go deep into its core, master and apply it proficiently. This is also an important reason why he was able to become a member of the unit's leadership team later. My children's homework has always been tutored by him, and in terms of learning ability, he has inherited his advantages and can worry a lot less. ”

A smile appeared on Ma Huijuan's face: "Another good thing about him is that he has a gentle temper. A colleague in his unit said that he had never seen Mr. Liu lose his temper. He was even more so at home, never talking to me out loud. We have been able to maintain our marriage for more than ten years because of these benefits. ”

After thinking about it, she talked about her dissatisfaction with Liu Jiabao: "His mistake is to be stubborn. As long as it is something that he decides, it is difficult for you to change him, no matter how you reason with him, he will not change, which is the most difficult thing for me to accept. The head of their unit has reached retirement age, and if the ranking is proposed according to seniority and ability, he can be regarded as one of the successors. I asked him to fight for it, but he was adamantly opposed. He told me that his ability is limited, and if he is the number one, it is not the best choice for himself or the unit, and since it is not the best choice, he should not strive for it. If the organization and his superiors think that he should take on this burden, it is a different situation, and he must obey and do well. I thought he should fight for it, there will be no pie in the sky, but he told me not to get involved in it with a tough attitude that I had never had before. ”

Thinking of this, Ma Huijuan seemed to be very angry: "Because of this incident, I think he is really stupid, a real nerd, let me see through the path of his life at a glance, and it has come to an end." A middle-aged man has such a mentality, which means that he has no ideals and no hope, and the rest of the time can only sit and wait for retirement. should have a better future but don't fight for it, and pretend to be high, this is depression and self-depravity. ”

She continued to recount her confusion: "Why do you think he is like this? Who is born to be the number one? You don't fight for it but say you don't have the ability, is this still the top student in my original mind? What makes me even more angry is that he said he didn't have the ability to have it, but I don't know when he had the ability to seduce women. ”

Ma Huijuan said another thing indignantly: "The direct reason why I sued him for divorce was that I found a love letter written to him by another woman in his pocket. I asked him to give me an explanation, and he said that there was no explanation, that he didn't know what it was all about. People put love letters in his pocket, and he even said he didn't know. Can you believe that? But he didn't admit it, doesn't that mean that I have wronged him? ”

The more Ma Huijuan spoke, the more angry she became: "I told him, you have to make a choice, either make a clear decision with me about the ins and outs of the matter, or I will divorce you." He seemed very relaxed and said, "Whatever you want." He had never spoken to me like that before, and I think he had indeed changed, and he had changed unbelievably enough. It makes me even more suspicious that he is having an affair, otherwise he wouldn't have acted so indifferent. ”

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