Tranquility is a state of life, but also a kind of wisdom, a kind of thinking, and a necessary cost for success in life. Those who are calm have the comfort of smiling and looking at the wind and clouds, and have the detachment of not moving. They want very little, do not desire the unreal, so their hearts are always empty, not for the sake of desire, so they are indifferent and clear-minded, quiet and far-reaching. No evil thoughts attack, showing the nature of human beings.

Don't reject the ordinariness of life, happiness is there

Some people say that 5% of a person's life is passionate, 5% is painful, and the remaining 90% is dull. We always endure the pain of the 5% for the passion of the 5% and spend our lives in the dullness of the 90%.

Desires are endless, especially for our limited life, and the desires we can achieve are simply too few. For most people, more often than not, life is in a dull state, and it is in such an ordinary life that we are striving for happiness.

However, there are too many people who always chase the gaze of desire too much, and ignore the happiness contained in the ordinary, we silently bear the pain that desire brings us, but forget the gift that God has given us in life - happiness. For most people, being ordinary is happiness. Happiness is all around us, so why go to great lengths to find it?

One day, Mr. Buffett was interviewed by a magazine wearing khaki pants, a jacket, and a tie. "I dressed up for that." He said a little embarrassed.

His daughter, Susan, once said of him: "One day, my mother and I went to the mall and said, 'Let's buy him a new suit...... We get tired of the clothes he wore for 30 years. So, I bought him a camel hair track jacket just to give him two new clothes. However, he told me to take my clothes off. He said, 'I've got a camel hair track jacket and a blue track jacket. His tone was obviously so serious that I had to take my clothes off. In the end, I took a set of clothes and went out, and he didn't know it. I didn't even glance at the price tag on my clothes. I'm looking for something that's comfortable to wear and looks a little conservative. If the clothes weren't extremely conservative, he wouldn't have worn them. ”

Susan went on to add: "It's impossible for him to change his clothes without wearing them to a very shabby look. ”

Of course, no one actually cares whether Buffett wears an evening gown or a swimsuit when he works.

Occasionally, Warren Buffett buys a suit.

In fact, Warren Buffett's low-budget style is well known. Catherine of the Washington Evening News once said of her business teacher: "He was a very frugal man, and once at an airport, I borrowed a dime from him and made a phone call, and he went a long way to get the 25 cents for change." 'Warren,' I cried out, '25 cents will do!' He handed me the money a little shyly. ”

Warren Buffett always drives his own cars, his clothes are worn out until they are worn out, and his favorite sport is not golf, but bridge; My favorite food is not caviar, but corn, and my favorite drink is not famous wine like XO, but Pepsi. When we see that the rich people on this earth are also living the same life as ordinary people, then what are we ordinary people not to be satisfied with?

Life is inherently a fickle process, and being overly attached to it is definitely a great unwisdom in life.

Maybe you are a busy person, running around for business, working hard, sleeping in the open air, and going through hardships. This will make you financially prosperous, but it will also make you feel exhausted. In fact, the joy of life lies in the plain, not in the high-ranking officials, not in the fragrant car BMW, not in the delicate wife, not in the brocade clothes and food, but in the truth in the ordinary, the plain in the real.

In fact, a deer chaser cannot see the mountain, and a fisherman cannot appreciate the water. They only have one purpose, and ignore the beauty and agility around them.

If you are standing in a mountain stream and listening to the murmuring sound of flowing water and birds, how can you clear the words? Close your eyes and imagine a picture of a clear blue sky, warm sunshine, rolling mountains, resting horses, and even the flow of the river has stopped.

What a peaceful and elegant life, how desirable. Everyone should have such a peaceful place in their hearts. Whenever we encounter unsatisfactory circumstances, let us put aside those unsatisfactory and go to the quiet place in our hearts, why do we need to walk in a hurry?

In fact, happiness is very simple, but also very plain things, it is simple and plain to hide in our simple and plain life, sometimes we don't even feel it, but deep down, there is such a seed called happiness in the root and germination, as long as you can give it enough water and nutrients, then it will thrive, the key is that you must maintain a plain heart. Ordinary happiness is even more desirable!

When we become too obsessed with money, our minds become deformed

When we become too obsessed with money, money deforms human nature, and it acts like a sane killer to lure people into a terrible conspiracy and brutally cut off family affection, friendship, and love.

A couple of very good friends were walking in the woods, and suddenly a beggar came out of the jungle in a hurry, and they asked, "What is it that makes you so alarmed?" ”

The beggar said, "It's terrible, I dug up a pile of gold in the woods!" ”

The two of them couldn't help but think in their hearts: What a fool this person is! Digging up gold, such a good thing actually feels scared! So they asked, "Where did you dig it?" Can you tell us? ”

The beggar asked, "Aren't you afraid of such a powerful thing?" It will eat people! ”

The two men said disapprehantly, "We are not afraid, please tell us where we are!" ”

The beggar said, "It's under the tree in the easternmost part of the forest." ”

The two friends immediately found the place, and sure enough, they found a lot of gold.

One said to another, "This beggar is so stupid that he has no need to beg for food anymore with all this gold, and the gold that everyone longs for has become a cannibal in his eyes!" What a fool, no wonder to beg for food all his life. ”

The other nodded yes in agreement.

They then discussed what to do with the gold, and one of them said, "It is not safe to take it back during the day, so it is better to take it back at night." I'm watching here, you go back and get some food, and we'll wait until it's dark to get the gold back." ”

The other man did as he was told. The one who stayed behind thought, "If only all this gold belonged to me." When he returns, I will beat him to death with a stick, and all the gold will be mine. He smiled happily.

The one who went back to get the food also thought how good it would be to have the gold alone, so he poisoned the food to poison his friend.

As soon as he returned to the tree, the friend beat him to death with a stick, and said, "My dear friend, I did not want to kill you, but this pile of gold compelled me to do so." ”

After that, he picked up the food brought by his friend and devoured it. It didn't take long for him to feel like a fire in his stomach, and he knew that he had been poisoned, and before he died, he sighed infinitely and said, "What the beggar said is not bad at all!" ”

What a sad scene it is to kill one's closest friends for money, to die for money, and for birds to die for food! It is very dangerous to not let go because of greed, and it hurts not only ourselves, but also others, and maybe even our loved ones.

Money is a means to a good life, not an all-powerful god. If you are too obsessed with money, your emotions will become indifferent; If you chase money too much, people will become jealous and suspicious, so we should learn to face money squarely and don't let money murder your happiness.

There was such a young couple, they lived happily after marriage, and had two lovely children, and the neighbors were very envious of them. However, the husband always felt that his family was too shabby compared to the rich families he had seen. So, he said goodbye to his wife and children, and traveled all year round, trying to earn money. As the days went on, the wife felt that the family was deserted and silent, and although she had more money, it was like living in a tomb inlaid with gold and silver. The child grew up, but he didn't see his father. Later, Dad finally returned, but he was cheated out of a business and went bankrupt, and became a ragged and depressed man. The child looked at the tearful "uncle" and said in surprise: "My mother is not at home if you want food, and she will come back from buying delicious food later, so I will give you something to eat!" ”

The wife returned, a faithful and virtuous woman, who had been thinking about her husband for many years, and the moment she saw him, she understood everything.

The husband threw himself into his wife's arms like a child, and said in tears: "It's over, it's all over, my hard work has been sucked dry and squeezed out by those villains, I have no way to live, my way is over, I regret dying." ”

The wife looked at her husband with pity, and after listening carefully to his cry, she stroked his hair with her hand, and with a smile on her face that she had not seen in several years, she said:

"You used to go the wrong way, but now your heart is finally back. This is the beginning of a truly happy life for our family. As long as we work hard and live and work in peace and contentment, happiness will accompany us. ”

Yes, happiness is inseparable from sincerity and honesty, and anyone who tries to engage in crooked ways will never want to step into the door of happiness. Since then, the husband and wife have worked hard with their two children, experienced wind and rain together, and exchanged their sweat for fruitful results. Although their lives are not luxurious, the desire of love fills their hearts, and they rediscover the beauty of their old life and understand the true meaning of life.

Figure out what it is to make money

We always think that you have to have money to enjoy life, in fact, enjoying life is only related to your mentality, and it has nothing to do with your money. Don't hold on to money, you can enjoy life whenever you want, not after you have a certain amount of money.

On a beautiful beach, there is an old man who came out of nowhere and sits on a fixed reef every day to fish. No matter what your luck is, you will catch more and less fish, and when the two-hour time is up, you will put away your fishing tackle and sail away.

The old man's strange behavior aroused the curiosity of a young man. Once, the lad couldn't help but ask, "When you're lucky, why don't you catch a day in one go?" That way, you're ready to go! ”

"What are you fishing for more fish?" The old man asked indifferently.

"You can sell it for money!" The young man thought the old man was stupid and cute.

"What do you use the money for?" The old man still asked flatly.

"You can buy a net, catch more fish, sell it for more money." The young man couldn't wait to say.

"What are you selling for more money?" The old man still has the same indifferent demeanor.

"Buy a fishing boat, go to sea, catch more fish, and make more money." The young man continued to answer.

"What do you do when you make money?" The old man still looked indifferent.

"Organize a fleet and make more money." The young man laughed in his heart at the old man's stupidity.

"What do you do when you make more money?" The old man is ready to reap the rod.

"Open an ocean-going company, not only fishing, but also transporting goods, entering and exiting the world's major ports, making more and more money." The young man described with a frown.

"What are you going to do with more money?" The old man's tone was already clearly mocking.

The young man was enraged by the old man, but he did not expect that he would become the one who was asked. "What are you doing if you don't make money?" He retorted.

The old man smiled: "I only fish for two hours a day, and the rest of the time, I can look at the morning glow, enjoy the sunset, plant flowers and vegetables, meet relatives and friends, and swim well, what is the use of more money for me?" As he spoke, he packed up and left.

Abandon the utilitarian thinking, leisurely fishing on the beach, no need to spend effort for money, no need to fight with others, what a fascinating state of life! However, in life, many people still think that only when they earn enough money can they stop worrying about money and enjoy life freely, but is this really the case?

Mr. Lei is a successful businessman, with a wife and children, a car and a bungalow, and an enviable career, everyone says that Mr. Lei is so lucky and happy, but Mr. Lei always feels that he is very tired: he is constantly socializing from morning to night, and he is eager to cut each other in two sections in private, but on the surface, he still has to call each other brothers and sisters, and push cups and change lamps; The business field is full of effort, open and secret fighting, endless; The company is busy, and you have to do everything yourself...... What's even more annoying is that when he returns home, his wife and children still don't understand him, his wife accuses him of snubbing him, the children complain that he doesn't take him out to play, and Mr. Lei is also angry. No, for the sake of work, he decided to postpone the family travel plan that had been repeatedly postponed for a while, this decision annoyed his wife, and after a big quarrel between the two, his wife returned to her parents' house with the children, leaving Mr. Lei alone at home to drink: What did I do wrong?

Mr. Ray clearly misunderstands the meaning of happiness, he seems to think that the more money you have, the happier your life will be, and he always thinks: when I have enough money, I can let go of everything and enjoy life freely, but the temptation of money often seems to be directly proportional to the amount of money at hand: the more you have, the more you want. At the same time, the incremental value of each dollar seems to be inversely proportional to the actual value: the more you have, the more you need. Money can buy comfort and promote personal freedom. But once it gets into the eye of money, money will bind the freedom of the individual. Therefore, if Mr. Lei does not change his mindset, he will not be able to bring happiness to himself and his family, even if he has more money.

Aristotle once wrote of the wealthy: "The whole idea of their lives is that they should keep increasing their money, or in any case not lose it." An indispensable part of a good life is the amount of wealth, and there is no limit to the amount of wealth. But once you enter the realm of material possessions, it's easy to lose your way. ”

Frank, a 45-year-old banker, said: "Although I have over £2 million in property, I feel a lot of pressure and I can't break it off on a basic income of £150,000 a year. I thought maybe I was losing control, I was always on the move, but I still missed a lot of appointments. When I had to make a decision, I felt as if someone had shoved his fist into my gut. In the middle of the night, I would get up and start flipping through the reports, I just wanted to calm me down. I couldn't sleep, I couldn't stop. However, I still can't make progress. ”

It was clear to Frank that everything he had achieved meant little to him, and he genuinely believed that he would feel like a king when he reached his financial goals. Money has become a pillar of his self-esteem and a substitute for human value. He realizes that money alone can never make him happy, and until he redefines his worth and his priorities, Frank will continue to waver on the brink of success, putting his family and his health at risk.

There are many ways in which the obsession with money can manifest itself, and Frank is just one of them. However, there is a common thread that runs through all of these situations, and that is that the value of money as a means to a good life disappears, and money becomes an end in itself. When it is put before love, trust, family, health, and personal happiness, it always tends to rot.

Don't be burdened by fame and live a little more freely

Due to the influence of certain ideas in life, many people regard the pursuit of fame and fortune as their goal in life. In this concept, the level of fame has become the only criterion for judging whether life is wonderful or not. Therefore, people fall deeper and deeper in this constant pursuit, and their precious lives rush by in such gains and losses, and they have no time and opportunity to taste the connotation.

It can be said that the pursuit of false fame is the biggest flaw in life. In the world, many fame, fortune, right and wrong have always made us deeply involved, most people know the glory brought by false fame, but they do not know the pain contained in it. In order to gain a false name, we work hard, work hard, and work hard; In order to gain fame, we plan, run, and busy; In order to gain false fame, we are jealous, fighting, and deceitful; In order to gain fame, we put down our bodies and went to do things like whiskers. We always try to get it when we don't get it, but after we get it, we will tremble and worry, afraid that one day it will suddenly be lost or come to naught.

In fact, the most valuable wealth in life is not fame and fortune that can be seen and heard, but a healthy heart, and when the heart is full, everything is full, and the happy person does not have the most, but needs the least. Fame and fortune can be exchanged for anything, but not for joy. Those false names and profits are things outside the body, and if you want to live an easy life, don't keep them in your heart.

However, although many people understand this truth, few people can escape the beautiful trap set by false names. has been tired of fame all his life, and he has the strength to praise his father day by day, but he will never be able to regain the innocence of his heart. In fact, even if we don't chase the sun, as long as we treat life with our hearts, then the sun will still shine on us.

Albert Einstein has become an internationally renowned scientist, but he does not care about the glory and brilliance that comes with fame and fortune.

During one of his trips, the captain of the ship on which Einstein was traveling recognized him and hurriedly vacated the most beautiful room on the ship to entertain him, but Einstein did not accept the captain's kindness, and said that he was actually an ordinary person, no different from others, so he was unwilling to accept this special treatment. Albert Einstein said, "There is nothing but science that can make him fall in love with it." This kind of open-minded, frank and honest character has also achieved his great cause.

As the inventors of radium, if the Curies had claimed to be inventors and owners in the first place, they would have received a huge prize that would have sustained them for the rest of their lives and left a large inheritance to their children. However, the Curies gave up this low-hanging fruit and fortune and firmly dedicated their technology selflessly, because only in this way would they not violate their original intention of contributing to scientific research.

In the following career, Marie Curie won 16 medals and 117 honorary titles, which seemed to outsiders to be an unsurpassable achievement, but this did not seem to mean anything to her.

One day, when a female friend of hers visited the house, she found Marie Curie's youngest daughter playing with a gold medal that had just been awarded to her by the Royal Society. The friend's eyes widened and he asked, "Oh my God! That medal is a very high honor for you, how can you be willing to let the children throw it around so casually? ”

Marie Curie smiled and said, "I do this to tell my children that all honour is just a toy, which can only be played with, and that it must not be kept forever, otherwise nothing will be achieved." ”

Marie Curie's extraordinary bearing left us with a bright mirror in our pursuit of fame and fortune. Indifferent to fame and fortune, self-satisfaction without asking for anything, this is the starting point of a person's success. Only when a person calms down his mentality and looks down on his fame and fortune can he give full play to the best level in what he should do and really want to do, so that his achievements will naturally appear inadvertently. This kind of natural acquisition is certainly much easier and more valuable than the deliberate pursuit of it.

In life, we must not only have an open-minded and open-minded mind, but also have a healthy mind and correct pursuit. Let's take those so-called false names lightly, only in this way can we transcend things and live a relaxed life.

Set a bottom line for desire so that it doesn't ruin your happiness

Since human desires are endless, we should know how to set a bottom line for desires. As long as we strictly adhere to this bottom line, then we will not become slaves to our desires, and moreover, we will feel happy and happy because we have achieved our set goals. Pain and happiness are just a thought, a thin line apart.

During the National Day holiday, a businessman took his daughter to see an art exhibition, and an auction was being held in the adjacent exhibition hall. The merchant had an idea: the auction house is the most cruel and the most tempering place, and the opponent is right in front of him. There is not much time to think about each other, and there is no room for manoeuvre. So, the merchant briefly explained the rules of the auction to his daughter and then took her to participate.

The merchant's daughter chose a collection of tarot cards from a musician, whom she greatly admired. The businessman told his daughter that this kind of tarot card normally costs 20 yuan, but because it is a collectible, it has feelings and history, so how much more are you willing to pay for your feelings and its history?

After listening to this, the daughter thought about it and said that she was willing to pay 100 yuan. The businessman said that is good, 100 yuan plus the original price of 20 yuan, is your highest bid, and it is also the bottom line, and you must give up if you exceed this price.

As the auctioneer's gavel sounds, the bidding begins. The daughter began to hold up the sign, and the merchant sat next to the daughter, looking at her very nervous, for fear that others would bid with her.

The merchant looked around and saw that there were still many bidders, and the bidder did not give up because she was a child. The price has been increased to 100 yuan, and at this time, the merchant's daughter was a little discouraged and muttered in a low voice: "Oh no, it's almost here!" ”

When the merchant heard this, it was broken, which was the most taboo in the auction, and showed his hole cards. The merchant touched his daughter with his elbow, and she realized that she had said the wrong thing, but there was nothing she could do about it. The tarot cards rose all the way and crossed the bottom line of 120 yuan, and the daughter wanted to raise the card, but the businessman stopped the daughter's action.

Walking out of the auction hall, the merchant comforted his depressed daughter: "You didn't get that tarot deck, but what you learned today is more valuable than this deck." First of all, people's desires are endless, you learn to set a bottom line for desires today, which is already very good, many people fail because they don't control the bottom line well and become slaves of desires. Secondly, it doesn't matter if you lose, the key is to know where you are losing. You made two technical mistakes today, one was to show your opponent that you were inexperienced; The second is that you shouldn't say that sentence, and show the hole cards to others, which is a taboo in shopping malls. In fact, in many cases, the level of competitors is often comparable, and who can win in the end often depends on the mentality. Auctions are obviously a condensed society, where the participants are your competitors and you have to find a way to beat them. ”

After hearing this, the daughter smiled at her father, still with a lost expression on her face. The merchant asked her if the owner of the tarot card was not the musician, would you still like it so much? The daughter shook her head, and the merchant said, "Didn't you always ask me before, what is the added value of products?" This is actually the added value of the product. ”

"In fact, each of us is like this, you are now on the same starting line as your classmates, but in 10 years your position will be different, your social status, quality of life, often depends on your added value - knowledge, work experience and innovation ability. Actually, this tarot card can be bought by Dad as a gift for you, but I still hope that you can get it with your own ability. Because in the process, you have grown and harvested, and this is the best gift I can give you today. ”

As it is, everyone's desires are unlimited, and if we don't set a bottom line for our desires, then we will definitely become slaves to our desires and end up in the abyss from which we cannot extricate ourselves and let ourselves pass by the goddess of happiness. And only by setting a bottom line for our own desires, and being able to strictly abide by this bottom line, can we ensure our happiness index and not let endless desires ruin our happiness.

Live realistically, and don't pursue what you can't get

There is a line in the once popular TV series "Who Calls the Shots of My Youth" that deeply touched people: "Do you know what the happiness of ants is? "Know, small appetite, not greedy. We are content, others are not full of a bowl, we have a grain and we are happy for half a year. This is Qian Xiaoshan's concept of happiness. This money sample with a Mickey Mouse backpack and two braids flying freely on the screen, touching countless people. Yes, those who are content are always happy, and those who are content can experience the happiness of the moment. In this short life, why should we sacrifice the happiness of the present in order to pursue something that we cannot get? Spanish and American psychologists filmed the emotional reactions of 20 silver medalists and 15 bronze medalists on camera at the 1992 Barcelona Olympics athletics competition. Psychologists have found that third place looks happier than second place after the sprint and on the podium.

The researchers analyzed this phenomenon and came to the conclusion that because the bronze medalist usually does not have high expectations of himself, winning the bronze medal may be the goal he has set for himself, or maybe he does not expect to get a good result at all, and it is a surprise anyway, so he is already happy; The silver medalist may usually aim for the gold medal, and if he doesn't win the championship, he will of course feel a little regretful and a little sad.

And that's exactly what happened, whenever a reporter interviewed an award-winning athlete after receiving a prize, many runners-up almost always said that they had hoped to become champions. However, the third-place winner will be content to break into the top three. In fact, each of us should know how to be content and set the right goal for ourselves, so that we can become the person who controls our emotions. The position from which you stand to look at the problem determines your attitude towards life. Don't be discouraged by your unfulfilled wishes, or even lose the courage to persevere. Look at things step by step, and nothing can be a stumbling block to your happy success.

So, let's not go after what we can't get, and don't set goals that don't fit the reality. If you fail your grades, aim for a passing grade first, not a perfect score. Only by knowing how to be content can we enjoy the joy of life at the moment.

We must know that human desires are endless, and what seems to be a heart the size of a fist may contain a lot of things that even we can't even calculate. There used to be a saying: "How big the heart is, how big the stage is." "Maybe that's human nature, but we should learn to be content.

Once upon a time there was a donkey, and his life was very comfortable, and his owner, a cloth merchant, never let him do heavy work, but occasionally made a few trips when he went to the city to load the goods, and let him carry the cloth that was not heavy. Every time the owner is not at home, it can be taken by the little master to the mountains to graze and walk.

One day, the little master let the donkey eat grass by himself because he was greedy for fun, and he ran down the hill to play with the children. The donkey was tired of the grass under his feet by this time. It looked up, and there was a lot of grass on the other side of the mountain. So he ran excitedly, but found that he had to cross several slopes to reach it, but for the sake of the fresh and fat grass, he insisted on running to the top of the hill.

By this time the donkey was already hungry and exhausted. He was about to bend down to graze, when he suddenly noticed a fatter and more delicious meadow on the opposite hill, so he gave up what he was looking at and began to run towards the meadow, and before he could reach his destination, the donkey fell to the ground.

This poor donkey, always looking at the mountain and the mountain, lost his life in vain. I don't know if you think this donkey is particularly stupid? But have you ever looked at yourself, and sometimes we are like the donkey, looking at the mountain and never knowing satisfaction?

Learning to be content is the cultivation of human nature. Learn it, the road of life will be full of sunshine, all the time to live in warmth, comfort will be the main background of the whole life, and life is a cheerful, enthusiastic and unrestrained symphony.

Only by cherishing what we have and knowing that we are content can we be happy. If we just keep chasing what we can't get all our lives, then we will lose the beauty of the moment.

Contentment can bring us a sense of joy, a sense of relaxation, and at the same time a joyful enjoyment. This enjoyment is by your side, and as long as you are willing to reach out, you will be able to have it. From now on, forget what you don't get, cherish what you have, and enjoy the happiness of contentment!