There will always be some "whispers" between friends, and when he tells you secrets that he never tells others, you must naturally keep them for him, otherwise you will only harm others and yourself.

Although some people have a good relationship with their friends, when their friends are not in front of them, they begin to casually disclose their friends' secrets and even some private information, and in the end, what he says reaches the ears of their friends, which will inevitably cause the breakdown of the relationship between the two. Hedgehogs and crows are very good friends. One day, the hedgehog was chatting with the crow, and the crow was very envious of the hedgehog's good armor, so he said, "Friend, this armor of yours is so good, even the cunning fox can't do it." ”

The hedgehog was naturally very happy when he heard this, and couldn't help but say to the crow: "Actually, my armor is not without weaknesses. When I curl up all over my body, there will still be a small eye in my abdomen that can't be curled up completely. If I blow into this eye, I won't be able to stand the itch and I'll open my body. ”

The crow was shocked when he heard this, and he didn't expect that the hedgehog had such a little secret. After the hedgehog finished speaking, he warned the crow, "I have only told you this secret, but you must keep it a secret for me, if the fox knows about it, then I will die." ”

The crow swore at the time: "Don't worry, you are my good friend, how can I betray you?" ”

Soon the crow landed under the fox's paws. Just as the fox was about to eat the crow, the crow suddenly thought of the hedgehog's secret, and said to the fox: "Brother fox, I heard that you have always wanted to taste the delicacy of the hedgehog, and if you let me go, I will tell you the hedgehog's death hole." At that time, the fox rolled his eyes and released the crow, and the crow told the fox the secret of the hedgehog.

The hedgehog was bitten by the fox on its soft belly, and before it died, when it knew that it was its friend crow who betrayed its secret, it said in despair: "Why did you betray me when you promised to keep it for me?" Friend. "Actually, each of us will have some little secrets, if you can be lucky enough to be the listener of this secret, even if the other party does not tell you to keep the secret, you can't use it as a conversation with others after dinner, this is actually the biggest harm to the friend, because in this way, he will lose his trust in you, and the relationship between you will certainly not return to the previous point of no talking.

When a friend tells you his secret, you should understand that this is his trust in you, and you only have the obligation to share his worries and sorrows, but you have no right to publicize this privacy.

If you can't take secrecy as an obligation, a responsibility, but are keen on gossip and make your friend's "whisper" public, of course, if it is an unintentional leak, then it is understandable, but you also need to sincerely apologize to your friend, otherwise it will only make things worse. And you will also lose your friends, lose the trust of your friends around you, and eventually become a loner.

Some people may be very aggrieved and say, "In my opinion, that's not a secret at all." "Because privacy itself is a relative concept, the same thing may seem like nothing to you, but to your friends, it may mean a lot. Therefore, you must know how to respect the privacy of your friends and not spread it freely.

The way to make friends lies in the loyalty to friends, and the relationship needs to be protected, only friends who are loyal to each other can make the friendship last forever, and be loyal to friends, keep secrets for friends, this is to protect your relationship, so that you can gain the trust of friends. When Marx was in Paris, he established a deep friendship with the poet Heine, to the point where "they can understand each other in just half a sentence".

Heine's ideas were quite progressive at that time, he wrote many battle poems, and in the evenings he would go to Marx's house to read his new works. Marx and Yanni worked with him to process, revise, and polish, but Marx never "divulged" in front of others until Heine's poems were published in the newspapers. For this reason, Heine also called Marx "the most secretive" friend, and their friendship has always been envied and praised by the world. The most basic way to get along with friends is respect and trust. If you know your friend's privacy, it's best to erase it from your memory, or at least keep your mouth shut and keep it a secret for him. Otherwise, it will only make your friends unhappy and cast a shadow on your friendship.