The color of the mood affects the color of the world. The root cause of distress is not actually how much misfortune one has suffered, but that there is a certain defect in one's inner quality and a deviation in one's understanding of life.

In fact, we should be thankful for suffering, because suffering has taught us the true life. Whether the difficulty comes from life or emotion, please start by thanking the suffering, reflect on yourself, and restore your self-confidence. I believe that the hardships you have experienced will inevitably become the object of your eternal gratitude in the future life, because without these sufferings, you would not have realized and would not have the experience you have today. A man went to a friend's house to learn that his friend's 3-year-old son had a congenital heart disease and had recently undergone surgery that left a deep wound on his chest.

A friend told him that the child was changing clothes one day and saw a scar in the mirror, and he was shocked and cried.

"The wound on my body is so long! I'll never get better. She relayed the child's words.

The child's sensitivity and precociousness surprised him; He was even more moved by his friend's reaction.

The friend was sad, so he unbuttoned his pants and showed the child the knife wound left by the caesarean section that year.

"You see, Mom has such a long wound on her body too."

"Because you were sick when you were still in your mother's belly and didn't have the strength to come out, but fortunately the doctor cut open your mother's stomach and rescued you, otherwise you would have died in your mother's belly. Mom has been thankful for this wound for the rest of her life! ”

"In the same way, you have to thank yourself for your wounds, otherwise your little heart will die, and then you will not see your mother."

Thanks for the wound! These four words hit his heart like the sound of a bell and drum, and he couldn't help but bow his head and examine his wounds.

It's not in the body, it's in the heart.

At that time, he suffered repeated setbacks in his work, and he lived alone outside the home, and his life was lonely, which made his emotional depression and depression even worse, but he was proud by nature and did not want to show weakness, so he tried to resist it with bright appearance and strong words.

As a result of enduring internal injuries, he eventually festered and suppurated, until he realized that he had begun to rely on alcohol to escape the current situation, and in order not to be defeated, he decided to cut off this decadent life with a knife, quit his job and move back to his parents' house.

Although the injury has not worsened now, the experience of this defeat is like an ugly scar carved on the chest. The feeling of admitting defeat and retreating was strong day by day, and the self-blame finally evolved into inferiority, which made him completely doubt his ability.

For a long time, he was stuck at home, uncertain about the future, and did not dare to start.

His friend taught him to look at this wound from the other side: glad that he still had the courage to admit defeat and start over, and to take it as a lesson to always be vigilant to correct the signs of pompous and pretentious style in the past.

He has to thank his friends, and even more so to his wounds! Psychologists have put forward the explanation of "optimal experience", which means that when a person consciously can exert his physical and intellectual abilities to the limit, that is, when the "optimal experience" appears, and usually the "optimal experience" does not occur in good times, but emerges in a critical crisis and the most difficult time. It is said that many of the prisoners who survived in the concentration camps were able to escape the catastrophe because the plight inspired them to take the best possible response. Yamanaka Shikanosuke was a famous hero of Japan's Warring States period, and it is said that he often prayed to the gods: "Please give me seven hardships." "A lot of people don't understand this move, so they go to him. Shikanosuke replied, "A person's will and strength will not be revealed until after many setbacks. So I hope to take advantage of all kinds of difficulties and dangers to train myself. And he also composed a short song to the effect of: "Troublesome things are always piling up, and I am willing to be tested as much as I can." ”

The content of the prayers to the gods varies from person to person, and generally speaking, it is nothing more than the aspect of profit. Some people pray for greater happiness, others pray for good health, or even make a lot of money, but no one prays to the gods for more hardship and toil. Therefore, it was natural for people at the time not to understand Shikanosuke's behavior of praying for hardships, but Shikanosuke still prayed in this way. His intention was to test himself through all kinds of difficulties, and there was also the intention of encouraging himself through difficulties.

Shikanosuke's lord, the Niko clan, was destroyed by the Mori clan, so he was determined to destroy the Mori clan and avenge the lord. However, at that time, the power of the Mori clan was in full swing, and there were very few of the remnants of the Niko clan who dared to fight against the Mori clan, and many were disheartened at the thought that it was a hopeless battle. However, Shikanosuke still encouraged himself from time to time and encouraged his courage. Perhaps it is for this reason that he prays for the blessing of the seven hardships and sufferings. In fact, the reality of life is the same for each of us. However, when interpreted by different "mindsets", they represent different meanings, thus forming different facts, circumstances, and worlds. If the mindset changes, the facts will change; What is in the heart is what the world is. With sorrow in the heart, all you see in your eyes is darkness, and you can abandon the unpleasant things or experiences that have already happened, and you will usher in the joy of a new mood. One day, James forgot to close the back door of the restaurant, and as a result, three armed gangsters broke in and robbed him in the morning, and they tried to blackmail James into opening the safe. Due to excessive tension, James mistook a number, causing the robbers to panic and shoot James. Fortunately, James was quickly found by a neighbor and rushed to the hospital for emergency treatment, and after 18 hours of surgery and a long period of careful care, James was finally discharged from the hospital, but there was still a bullet left on him......

Six months after the incident, James told a friend about his journey. James replied: "When they hit me, I lay on the floor and remember that I had two choices: I could choose to live, or I could choose to die. I choose to live. ”

"Aren't you afraid?" Friends asked him. James continued, "The paramedics are amazing, they keep telling me it's okay and reassuring. But as they pushed me into the emergency operating room, I saw the worried looks on the faces of the doctors and nurses, and I was really frightened, and their faces seemed to say - he was already a dead man! I knew I needed to take action. ”

"What did you do at the time?" The friend continued to ask.

"There was a nurse who asked me a question at the volume of a yell, and she asked me if I was allergic to anything," James said. I replied, 'Yes.' At this point, the doctor and nurse stopped and waited for my answer. I took a deep breath and shouted: 'Bullets! When they had finished laughing, I told them, 'I choose to live now, please treat me as if I were a living person, not a living dead.' James' survival was, of course, due to the doctor's skill, but also because of his amazing attitude. We learn from him that every day you can choose to enjoy your life or hate it. This is the only thing that truly belongs to you. No one can control or take away something, and if you can keep it in mind, everything else in your life will be much easier.

The color of the mood affects the color of the world. If a person has a contemplative attitude towards life, he will not feel sorry for himself when he is not satisfied, and only see the imperfect side of life. Around us, most of the people who are suffering all the time are not actually suffering much misfortune, but that there is some kind of defect in their inner quality and a deviation in their understanding of life.

In fact, there are many strong people in life, even if they suffer setbacks and endure all kinds of tortures from life, they will remain mentally immovable. People who are full of joy and fighting spirit will never be defeated by difficulties, and they will always carry joy in their hearts, whether it is thunder or sunshine, they will give the same welcome and cherishment.