In fact, people often encounter small disappointments in the midst of great pride. The latter may be insignificant compared to the former, but people tend to lament the small loss without thinking about what is already gained.

On the road of life, in the world of flowers, do you see clearly: not all loss means regret, not everything is complete.

Don't be sad about the regret of losing, maybe losing means getting better, as long as you choose a pure and beautiful ideal; Don't be complacent about what you get, maybe getting it means you have more to lose, if you choose a vain and selfish goal.

When we are torn between gain and loss, as long as we have the right to choose, then we should be based on the principle of whether our soul can be at peace. As long as we can make a wise choice between gain and loss, then our lives will not be overwhelmed by the world. Sam is a painter, and a very good painter. He paints happy worlds because he is a happy person himself. However, no one buys his paintings, so he inevitably feels a little sad occasionally, but only for a while.

"Let's play the football lottery!" A friend advised him, "It is possible to win a lot of money with only $2." ”

So Sam bought a lottery ticket for $2 and actually won! He made $5 million.

"Look!" His friend said to him, "How lucky you are! Do you still draw a lot? ”

"All I can do now is draw the numbers on the check!" Sam laughed.

So, Sam bought a villa and decorated it. He was tasteful and bought a lot of things, including: Afghan carpets, Viennese cabinets, Florentine small tables, Meissen porcelain, and old Venetian chandeliers.

Sam sat down contentedly, lit a cigarette, and quietly enjoyed his happiness. Suddenly, he felt lonely and wanted to see his friends, so he threw away his cigarette butt and hurried out the door.

Cigarette butts lay quietly on the ground, on a gorgeous Afghan carpet...... An hour later, the villa turned into a sea of fire and it was completely burned down.

When the friends learned the news, they rushed to comfort Sam: "Sam, you are so unlucky! ”

"What misfortune have I had?" Sam asked.

"Loss! Sam, you don't have anything left now. Friends said.

"What? I only lost $2. Sam replied. Life is long, and everyone is faced with countless choices. These choices can make our lives full of troubles and cause us to keep losing things we didn't want to lose. But it's these same choices that keep us coming up with them. What we lose may never be able to make up, but what we gain is a unique life that others can't experience. In the face of gains and losses, obedience and adversity, success and failure, glory and disgrace, we must look at them calmly, and do not have to worry about them. Otherwise, you will only make yourself very tired.

It is important to know that while it is gratifying to gain, there is nothing to grief about losing. When you get it, the desire is no longer the desire, so you get the satisfaction, but you lose the expectation; When you lose it, you don't have it anymore, so you lose everything, but you get nostalgia. Even God closes a door and opens a window at the same time, and gain and loss themselves are inseparable: there is gain and loss, and there is gain and loss. One day the king of Chu went on a trip and lost his bow, and the people below wanted to look for it, and the king of Chu said: "No need, my people will pick up the bow I dropped, anyway, it is all obtained by the people of Chu, so why bother looking for it?" When Confucius heard this, he said with emotion: "It's a pity that the heart of the king of Chu is still not big enough!" Why don't you say that if someone drops the bow, someone will naturally pick it up, so why bother if it is from Chu or not? "People leave the bow, people get it" should be the most open-minded view of gains and losses. As far as common sense is concerned, when people get some benefits, most of them are overjoyed, and the color of pride is overflowing; And when you lose some benefits, you will naturally be frustrated and annoyed, indignant in your heart, and the color of frustration will be exposed. But for those who are noble-minded, they can "not be happy with things, not sad for themselves" in life, and do not keep personal gains and losses in mind. They are calm and calm in the face of gains and losses, beyond the material, beyond the world, for thousands of years, how many people "look up to the mountains, the heart yearns for it".

In fact, the relationship between giving and giving is very delicate, and a person may only get a limited number of things, or even a little in his life. And these things may take a lifetime to get, so life is a tragedy in this sense. There are so many things in this world, and so many beautiful things, but it doesn't seem to have anything to do with you, it only appears to you as a temptation, and you can only watch others take it away. If you can't let go at all, you can't give up anything, you want to get everything, you will live a very tired life. But you have nothing, and even the world is not you, and from this point of view, you have gained a few things, at least the experience of life and coming to the world. God has been good to you, at least for many years in this wonderful and complicated world, so you see, have you gained a lot?