Chatter is also a form of expressive desire, but this desire to express destroys people's will, annoys people's emotions, and is therefore annoying. People who chatter generally feel that they are always right, like to find fault with others, and are always afraid that others will not understand, remember, or accept it. This form of expressiveness is really spiritual garbage in our lives.

The husband and wife live together with affection and love, and they account for the majority of the time, but they can't avoid quarrels, opinions, anger and other unpleasant scenes. Sometimes, the two quarrel happily and vent their dissatisfaction, which is more comfortable. Sometimes this little quarrel will also promote the relationship between husband and wife, but as a man, the least like a woman's chatter, if you want to win a woman's heart, and be willing to go to great lengths to please yourself, the best, most useful, and least failed way is to thank her wholeheartedly and praise her all the time.

Napoleon Pennapade was the nephew of Napoleon III, and he was the daughter of the beautiful Tuginie P.

The Countess de Bo fell in love and got married. His advisers believed that she was nothing more than the daughter of an unimportant Spanish count. But Napoleon replied: "So what? "Her grace, her youth, her seduction, her beauty, filled him with fairy-like happiness." I've fallen in love with a woman I love. "She's not a woman I don't know," he said. ”

Napoleon and his new wife had health, wealth, power, fame, beauty, love, and faith—all the conditions of happiness, but the flame of their marriage never shone brighter. And it didn't take long for the blazing flame to be extinguished until it was reduced to ashes. Napoleon could make Eugenie empress, and he could pour out all that beautiful France had, or give all the power of his love, or even the power of his throne. But he couldn't do one thing: he couldn't get her to stop chattering.

Out of jealousy and suspicion, Yugini ignored his orders and forbade him to engage in secret acts. While he was in the middle of his national affairs, she broke into his office and interfered with his most important discussions. She refused to allow him to be alone, forever afraid that he would associate with other women. She often went to her sister's house to complain about her husband. He complained, cried, chattered, and even threatened, and forcibly entered his study, where he attacked and abused him. Napoleon, the emperor of France, with many splendid palaces, could not find a cupboard to settle his mind there.

What are the consequences of Yukini's actions? We can see from Reinhard's description in Napoleon and Eugenie: An Imperial Tragicomedy: "Later, Napoleon would often go out at night through one side door, put on a floppy hat, cover his eyes, and take a retinue of cronies to go to the beautiful women who were waiting for him, or to roam the city as in ancient times, to see things that cannot be seen, and to breathe in some air that may be breathed." ”

And all this is caused by the chattering Yugenie. She sat on the throne of the Empress of France and was the most beautiful woman in the world; But in the atmosphere of chatter, neither dignity nor beauty can maintain the existence of love. This was the poor good man herself, and her suspicion and nagging brought about it.

Countess Tolstoy also discovered this - alas, she learned too late. Before she died, she confessed to her daughters: "Your father died because of me. Her daughters wept bitterly. They knew that their mother was telling the truth, and that she had killed her father with constant complaints, permanent criticism, and incessant nagging.

Count Tolstoy and his wife were supposed to be happy in a privileged environment. Tolstoy's famous "War and Peace" and "Anna Karenina" will forever shine in the history of world literature. He was so famous that his admirers even followed him all day long and wrote down everything he said. Even words like "I think I'm going to bed" are written down word for word. In addition to fame, Tolstoy and his wife had property, status, and children, and there was no other marriage more satisfying. At first, they tasted the sweetness of happiness so much that they knelt down together and prayed to God Almighty to continue to grant them all their joy.

After that, something amazing happened. Gradually, Tolstoy became a completely different person. He was ashamed of the great writings he had written. Since then, he has devoted himself to writing pamphlets promoting peace, stopping wars and eradicating poverty. The man who confessed to all the sins imaginable in his youth was to follow the teachings of Jesus truthfully. He gave all his property to others and lived a poor life. He farmed, chopped wood, and piled grass. He made his own shoes, swept his own house, ate in wooden bowls, and loved his enemies as best he could.

Tolstoy's life was a tragedy, and the cause of the tragedy was his marriage. His wife loved luxury, but he pursued simplicity; She craves fame and social praise, but it means nothing to him; She sought money and possessions, but he regarded them as a sin, and for so many years she often blamed and scolded Tolstoy for insisting on giving up the rights to publish his books without any royalties; And she wanted those books to generate money. When he objected to her, she rolled frantically on the ground, put a bottle of opium to her mouth, claimed to commit suicide, and threatened Tolstoy to jump into a well.

There was one of the most tragic episodes in their lives in history. In the days of their first marriage, they were very happy; But 48 years later, he couldn't stand to be with her. Sometimes at night the old and sad wife, on the basis of intercession, kneels before his knees and begs him to read aloud the words of sweet love he had written in his diary decades earlier about her. They both cried when they read about the beautiful and happy times they had lost forever. The reality of life is so different from the dream of love they had a long time ago.

Finally, the 82-year-old Tolstoy could no longer stand his wife's nagging, and on a snowy night in October 1910, he escaped from his wife – walking aimlessly in the cold night. Eleven days later, he died of lung disease at a station, and his dying request was not to let her come to him.

This is perhaps the heavy price paid by Mrs. Tolstoy for her nagging complaints.

Maybe we will think, what good help did nagging give her?

"I think I'm really insane." That was what Countess Tolstoy later said about herself.

Hebger, who has served in New York's Family Court for 11 years and has reviewed thousands of divorce cases, says one of the main reasons men leave home is because their wives chatter. Or, as the Boston Post put it, "Many wives are constantly digging little by little, creating the grave of their own marriage." ”

In fact, not only between husband and wife, but also in the workplace, in the circle of friends, and in public places, the uncontrolled chatter destroys the nerves of others, and also destroys their own image of being a person and doing things.