"Husbands and wives are like birds in the woods, flying separately when disaster comes", this proverb may make us feel very disappointed and unconfident in human nature, and even husband and wife do not help each other in times of crisis, and it is even more difficult to say that they are friends.

"I don't want to be born in the same year and month, but I want to die in the same year and month" may only be regarded as people's words. Maybe it's okay to eat and drink together, but when it comes to the critical moment, how many people can stand the test?

Bai Minzhong and He Ba were good friends, and the two went to Chang'an to take the imperial examination together. This year's chief examiner is Wang Qi. Wang Qi knew that Bai Min was born in a prestigious family, and his character and literary talent were all of the highest quality, so he appreciated him very much, and intended to take him as the champion; However, he thought that he had too close a relationship with the poor Heba, and he was a little hesitant, so he privately sent someone to persuade him, hinting to him: "As long as you no longer associate with Heba, the king will take you as the champion." After Bai Minzhong heard this, he frowned and did not answer.

Just at this time, Hebal came to visit, and his family sent him away. Bai Minzhong was furious when he heard this, and immediately chased He Ba back, truthfully told him about the situation, and said: "What's so strange about the champion, why can't you not have friends!" He said that his family set up a banquet and had a drink with Heba.

The lobbyist saw it in his eyes and was angry in his heart, and when he went back, he returned to Wang Qi one by one, and instigated from the side: "This kid is reluctant to Heba, and we won't give him the champion." Who knew that Wang Qi reversed his original intention, taking both Bai Minzhong and Heba. It turned out that Bai Minzhong's spirit of asking friends not champions touched Wang Qi's heart that was soaked in secular prejudice.

A loyal friend brings you a stable trust, and you can send him a distress signal at any time.

Around us, there are too few people like Bai Minzhong who put their friends first, and such a person must have a kind, upright, and selfless heart in order to live and die with his friends and share weal and woe. We have a lot of friends around us, we can't hope for any suffering to test our friends, but I believe that once you are in danger, many of your friends will leave you, in the face of difficulties, many people lose their loyalty to their friends, abandon friendship.

There is such a parable:

The two men walked through the forest together, and suddenly, a large bear jumped out of the jungle and jumped at them.

One of the men climbed a tree for his own safety.

The other, unable to fight the bear alone, fell to the ground and lay motionless as if he were dead. He had heard that bears did not touch carcasses, which must have been true, for the bear only sniffed on his head and walked away. The man lying on the tree jumped down from the tree, "That bear seems to be whispering something in your ear, what is it telling you?" ”

Another man replied, "It says it's foolish to be in the company of someone who abandons a friend in a moment of danger." ”

Yes, it is dangerous to be friends with a group of people who are not loyal to friendship, who not only does not help you in times of crisis, but may be a person who falls into a trap.

There is a play in my country's Yuan miscellaneous dramas, called "Fighting Dogs and Persuading Husbands". It is written that Sun Rong, a member of the staff, made two prodigal children as friends with wine and meat. Sun Rong mistakenly regarded the two wine and meat friends as friends of life and death, but drove his own brother to live in the broken tile kiln. In order to wake up her husband, Sun Rong's wife came up with a way to beat the dog and persuade her husband, and put the dead dog in front of her house in human form. On weekdays, the "troubled" brothers who say "brother in trouble, brother rescue", but the door is closed and he refuses to come forward. At the critical moment, it was Sun Rong's younger brother who transported the "corpse" out of the city for his brother, and was willing to bear the "murder" alone. What is hateful is that Liu and Hu not only did not help Sun Rong, but also came to the door to knock on Sun Rong's bamboo pole, and had to ask him to come up with three thousand taels of silver, otherwise he would be dragged to see the official. The former "friends" showed their hideous true colors again and again, and finally made Sun Rong sober up and completely enlightened.

We must understand that friendship is mutual, and we cannot wishfully ask others to pay for friendship without being prepared to do anything ourselves.

Once, when he came to the bottom of the Alps, he met some of the gods, and the gods said, "Azens, have you ever had friends?"

He said, "Yes, he loves me more than you." This angered the gods, who were determined to kill Arsuns' friend and asked who it was. Seeing the intentions of the gods, Asuns concealed it. The gods seduced Arsons with their treasures, promising him a beautiful wife, a majestic king, and so on. None of this touched the heart of Asuns. But the gods still captured Asuns' friend, and they didn't kill him right away. They did not believe in what Asuns had said, so they seduced his friends by the same means, and if he agreed to betray him, he would get everything: beauty, wealth, power. Like Asuns, this friend was unmoved, and the gods were both envious and ashamed, and none of them went to kill them, and quietly let them go. "We are loyal and trust each other, and nothing is more important than our friendship," Asons said. ”

We appreciate Asuns and his friends, and hope that ours will be like Asuns' friends: trusting and loyal. At the same time, we should follow the example of Asuns and love friends more than wealth and power.