On October 26, at 2 p.m., I was summoned again.

"I'm here this time to ask you, have you thought about it?" Officer Liu asked.

"After thinking about it, I still don't choose to go out." I mean it.

"That's a sentence!"

"Now it's not a question of whether you want a sentence or not, or whether I want to get out or not, it's that I really can't get out.

Responsibly speaking, when I go out now, I am not able to deal with the emotional problems between me and my dad, and there will be other things, and there is no need to trouble the police station, I should have come in a long time ago. ”

"Alright, sign this warrant."

I signed it and handed it to Officer Liu, who reminded him again.

"I'll take this sign back, you won't be a suspect, but a defendant, it's really going to affect three generations of sentences, and now it's too late to revoke it, and then think about it!"

"Don't think about it, thank you!"

"Has your lawyer approached you?"

"Not yet."

"That's soon, just in the next day or two, if you have anything to say, you can tell him, and let him help you talk to your dad."

"Okay."

"Good luck!"

"Thank you."

When the two police officers returned to the door of the cell and relieved me of the handcuffs, they deliberately persuaded me:

"If you think about it again, there will be a chance to go out."

"Okay."

His persuasion made everyone in the cell believe that I was really going to prison myself.

And I have a thorough basis to claim that I just want to go to prison to learn from you.

In the beginning, did I really want to go to jail? What do you think?

No, I came here and thought it would be good to go to jail, and I had claimed in public that I was going to go to jail, so I didn't choose to go out because I lived up to what I said.

Later, I learned that this is the principle of commitment consistency, that is, when a person makes a commitment, by consistent behavior, he or she can build a reliable and trustworthy personal image in interpersonal relationships.

It is the integrity principle that we have been instilled by our parents and teachers since childhood, words and deeds must be consistent, and what you say must be done, especially in front of someone, or in front of everyone, if you say it, you will instinctively do the same behavior as it to prove yourself.

Even if you say the wrong thing, bluff and say angry words, you will be forced to carry out the wrong words and angry words you say when there are no steps down.

For example, do you see someone boasting that they bought a 5,000-dollar watch? You don't bother to say, isn't it just a watch, and it's not that you can't afford it. If the man provokes you, then you buy one and speak again. You just say buy it.

After that, you look around and see how many acquaintances there are, and then spend a month's salary to buy a watch that is the same as his.

During free time, Yang Nanzi came over and asked me: "I'm curious about your story now, what is the reason, but I still refuse to go out." ”

I patiently told him: "Because the court does not accept the online loan, the public security does not file the case, and it has not been resolved for a long time, and the collection calls are still continuing, my dad must be worried, and all the grievances have come out."

It is natural to repay debts, there are reliable repayment channels, and I can repay the money by selling the house.

It's my dad who doesn't have the ability to make you embarrassed to ask me for money to take these ill-gotten money.

It's my dad who is incompetent, so you have to discuss everything with your classmates and don't tell me.

It's Dad's fault for not disciplining you well, making you unable to distinguish right from wrong.

How can a father speak like this in front of his son?

Can you stand it? ”

Yang Nanzi said: "It's me, and I can't stand it." ”

"I don't speak, the more he talks, the more energetic he becomes, I can't express it, I can't listen to it anymore, how can I say it, I can only call him a few words.

No matter what, it's not your turn to sell your house!

I didn't say you weren't capable, it was all your own opinion! Don't say such things in the future.

And don't always take my classmates as an example, I don't interact with my classmates all year round, and I eat with them once or twice a year, what does this have to do with my classmates?

No matter how right and wrong are unknown, I am also an adult to bear it myself, so you don't have to worry about it!

Then you should pay it back, don't let the phone call me, don't be willful!

You should have no unfilial son like me, okay!

Every time I get into a fight, that's the end of the situation, because then I slam the door and drop my phone or hurt myself, and I repeat these words over and over again, and the vicious circle ends. ”

When I said this, I suddenly felt like I was going to cry, I took a sip of water, quickly covered my emotions, and continued:

"Usually I work in the factory, it doesn't matter if others ask me to help do more work, change the product on the assembly line and rearrange the process, you have to re-adapt to the process speed, it is inevitable that you will not be able to keep up with the speed of the line, and be urged by the leaders to do all kinds of things, especially if you can do it, you can't do it, I don't care and I can't bear it.

As soon as I had a fight with my dad and went back to work, my emotions would get out of control.

Either quarrel and leave, or fight and get expelled, and you won't stay for a minute.

As soon as I lose my job, I will have no money for two months, not to mention that I have to lose my job two or three times a year, and I have become blacklisted in many large companies in Wu Province.

In the past two or three years, before I met her, I had a total of 11 fights, and I didn't even count the quarrels, do you think I can be emotionally stable? is getting more and more irritable, and the idea of killing people and committing suicide is really there.

That's why I met her, and I settled down. ”

Here I lied again, 11 fights are obviously exaggerated, and it was exaggerated in front of Shen Bingwang the day before yesterday, in fact, I fought 5 times, and I was called to the police 2 times.

A lot of times, we do exaggerate based on facts, such as asking me how much my salary is, and it's actually 4,500 yuan, and I'll say five or six thousand.

Yang Nanzi nodded with a smile, looking understanding.

At this point, I will naturally go on:

"I met her on online chess and card games, I didn't have any other hobbies since I was a child, I just like to play poker, she just knew how to play, I watched her send a message through the chat box to direct her to play.

I got familiar with it after coming and going, plus Wei Xin, chatting every day, talking about everything, just like my roommates and classmates were in love at that time, always report what they were doing, good morning and good night every day on time, don't stay up late, go out for a walk, but the chat is not ambiguous, I at most send a hug Wei expression.

During the Chinese New Year, she sent me saury filling, dumpling wrappers, two anchovies, and I also tried to make dumplings for the first time, and took a photo of the wrapped rows of dumplings and sent them to her.

Two days later, I told her that the dumplings were a bit too much, and my family didn't like to eat the filling of saury, so I ate it alone, and I didn't finish it for two or three days.

She said, you are stupid, the knifefish filling will change its flavor overnight, how can you still eat it! I still eat for two or three days, and I won't send you so much if I knew it.

I said, "If you sent it to me, of course you want to eat it."

Later, we played cards with four people who often played cards together, so we set up a group, three men and one woman, and the two men had to send photos to each other to meet each other in the group, so she sent a few photos and a walking selfie video.

The two of them teased without a word, you see that the little wind is blowing, the hair is flirtatious, and there are all kinds of amorous.

This is what his husband likes, the training is good, don't envy it.

One day, let's make an appointment to sing, sing, eat and eat.

It must be very happy to have a big beautiful woman here.

I quit the group in a fit of anger and asked her, why do they bother with them?

She said that it was all a joke, and I didn't pay attention to them and talked about other topics, so I replied to them.

I said, can't you just leave the group and not contact them? What are they thinking, can I not understand as a man?

She said it's okay, aren't all adult topics like this, it's like if you quit the group and don't contact, then the business is not good.

I said, okay, just know it in your own heart, don't make an appointment with them for dinner, they just want to prostitute for nothing, you can sleep if you can, and even if you can't.

She said I know, and then the soul asked, do you like me?

I was so confused that I didn't dare to reply, because I knew she had a child.

Seeing that I didn't reply, she finished speaking.

Then I sent me a message seriously, my name is Zhen Zhu, Xiaolong in 1989, I am 31 years old, I have almost never been out of the province, I have never been out of the alley city, I have no friends after getting married, there is no one to talk to, I want to have a friend, my daughters are 11 years old, don't like me, we are not suitable, don't have the idea of wanting to be with me.

I asked, what are you afraid of.

She said, I'm not afraid, I'm not afraid of anything, but don't have the idea of being with me, you know? I don't want to hurt you.

I replied to her in disappointment, okay.

We still chatted like this, and when she asked and emphasized this, I broke the defense, I liked her more and more, and I had a strong sense of wanting to conquer her.

She showed me her monthly collection account, with a turnover of about 5 million yuan all year round, whether she is doing aquatic products, or one of the best businesses in Xiangcheng, and has been on Yangshi TV.

I thought, if I want to marry her, I have to be richer than her husband, I have to make money, which is my first desire to make money.

If you want to make money, you must interact with people and understand the world.

Leaving the factory immediately was a great courage for me, because I didn't want to interact with people, let alone understand that people were sophisticated, and the water was too deep.

Because I have no interest in anything since I was a child, I have been in a state of solitude and almost derailed from life, so I rarely receive information from the outside world to understand them, and only live a three-point and one-line life for what I am doing.

I chose a housekeeping company to work as my main business, and then I plan to start a light business, then sales is the best side business choice, she is supportive, I feel the meaning of life.

The side business is Anmei direct salesman, I first came into contact with Anmei, I didn't know that it was controversial, but its concept is very good, in line with the value of 'I want to make money first to help you make money', she still supports me, so I am very happy.

In particular, I go door-to-door to promote Anmei products in large shopping malls, small squares, street stores, give them product effect demonstrations, and tell them in detail about the current Anmei practices, so as to get their different emotional reactions and different sales experiences.

That's when I realized how wonderful it is to interact with people.

I often meet people who do publicity, such as English tutoring classes, gyms, goat's milk delivery, cosmetics, real estate sales, and taxi travel.

There are also stalls at night, those who push the ground, and all kinds of shallow exchanges that are not easy in life, and there are also a lot of promotions.

For example, those barbecue snacks and milk tea and fruit drinks on the street stipulate that they can only be placed here at nine o'clock in the evening, so they have to prepare to come over at seven or eight o'clock to grab the stalls, wait for the normal business after the city management leaves, and do not go back until eight or nine o'clock in the morning, and sleep on their stomachs on the stalls when they are sleepy at night.

They can earn two or three hundred a day, seven or eight hundred if they are lucky, such good luck does not have a few days, many of them are done by husband and wife, so they are not as profitable as you think, they have to pay a booth fee, or a protection fee.

On the one hand, this protection fee does not fine you, and on the other hand, Internet celebrities are not allowed to participate in live broadcasts to protect the stable income of small stalls, after all, there are more Internet celebrities as soon as they come, and stalls from other places have come here to grab stalls, and those who do stalls can't make money, and the urban management is not easy to manage, and they have to be rectified from above.

All in all, from the process of being an enchantment, I have experienced the attitude of different levels of people towards me, and I am happy.

There are those who have the patience to listen to my sales skills without speaking, those who have the intention to give me experience guidance, those who argue with me more seriously, and those who directly kick me out.

The project of housekeeping is home appliance cleaning and home cleaning, that is, cleaning air conditioners, range hoods, washing machines and storage and cleaning, on the one hand, I am a chronic child, and the work is relatively quiet, so I should be a sweeper and hate to practice, suitable for this job, and can grind my temperament, after all, I am still impetuous.

On the other hand, we can enter many families and spend a few thousand to invite us, most of them have quality requirements for life, and I can also see things that I have not seen, so I can expand my cognition, to put it mildly, I have never seen the world.

Since she supports me and chats from morning to night every day, I simply rented a house in her community, and I didn't hide it from her.

It doesn't matter if you don't say it, I panicked when I said it. ”