Two days ago, I wrote a small chapter on screening, which may not have attracted much attention, but some of the things that should be said still have to be said.

Otherwise, it's really unpleasant to hold it in my heart. After I screened the three hair children that should be left around, maybe because of the magnetic field, I went out for a walk by chance the night before yesterday, and I ran into one of the hair children who I had screened out.

He talked to me about the current situation, and before I could say a few words, he was already talking to me about some of the things that had happened to him recently.

When a person does not mix well, or when a person is experiencing a low point, he will be a little unconfident in himself, doubt himself, and sometimes have some low self-esteem. So, when this little man opened his mouth to speak, I already understood why he was explaining, not explaining.

I don't know if there are such "old friends" around you, who speak with one mouth, the purpose is to explain himself, to prove that he is better than anyone else, not to express a fact. In addition, you will also find that when you open your mouth to express your opinion, basically the essence of a thing does not exist, or even disagrees with it 100%.

Because, what we are talking about is life, how can there be 100% right things in life? But if the other person's point of view can guide others, it is estimated that others will be willing to learn.

There is a very fixed thing about these people's thinking patterns, as long as you open your mouth and say something different from what he thinks, then you will do it with him. In other words, as long as what you say makes the other party feel wrong, you will explain it to you, don't express it in order to protect your face, and don't express it in order to cover up your mistakes, but do what is right and closer to the truth. Therefore, it is very difficult for a solidified person to overcome himself, and every time he protects himself, he will add a shell to himself, and explain a lot more to explain how much effort he has put into something.

When I was chatting with the little man who had been screened out, the first thing he said was that he didn't put much effort into what he was talking about, or that he was very dissatisfied with this matter, so he would try to explain to me, a layman, how much he would achieve once it was done.

Sometimes, I communicate with other friends that they are not doing a perfect job, or that they are not doing a very good job of it. Then the first feedback from this person to me was that communication was ineffective.

So, do you really want the ability to explain, or the ability to do things? Do you want to be a good person or a stand-up comedian? There are many people who open their mouths to explain, and most of my favorite friends are still the ones who give up explaining. And, did you know that it's hard to give up an explanation?

Because, as a once poor person, giving up explanations is basically equivalent to giving up face; And to excuse what you have paid for this matter is equivalent to giving up your own expression value.

That's why I say it's hard to give up explanations. However, if this thing is not done well enough, it is necessary to give up the explanation. Because we have to settle our hearts in the level that is rightfully ours. At the same time, it is also necessary to understand why others are different from you when they express their opinions. Instead of blindly blaming others, nor blindly demanding others, nor judging others because they are different from themselves when expressing their opinions.

As a human being, we can't do everything perfectly. So, we have to learn to accept the fact that there is no 100% right thing in life. But if someone can guide us, maybe we'll be willing to learn.

Therefore, we have to understand the fact that we often meet people who always like to talk with their mouths open in order to prove that they are better than anyone else. But if their point of view doesn't guide us, then we should learn to give up communicating with them. Because, the purpose of communication is to make things better, not to prove that you are better than others.

So, it's not an easy thing to give up an explanation. But if we want our minds to settle down on the level that is rightfully our own, we have to learn to let go of interpretation. At the same time, it is also necessary to understand why others are different from you when they express their opinions. Instead of blindly blaming others, nor blindly demanding others.

When you learn to let go of explanations, you can start to be flexible. Because solidified people always believe that they are right, sometimes when you encounter disagreements, you will find two completely different people, and they will appear in front of you.

This is the key moment for you to observe whether a person around you has room to grow, that is, once a point of view appears in a group of people, some people will directly deny and oppose it; Some people will say that it is possible, some people will say that it may be, and even more will say that he has a point.

This is how you have slowly turned yourself into a flexible person, dear book friends, do you know that smart people are constantly growing themselves in the negation of others? And the dull person is constantly equipping himself in the negation of others.

These are two completely different ways of living, and at this time, the author wants to explain it to the solidifier.

You don't have to care too much about everyone's thoughts, because being a human being doesn't require everyone to understand you; Don't be too pushy about doing everything right. If you can do everything right, why should you be a solidified person? Moreover, everything can be done right, and there is no such person in this world.