I believe that everyone should have all kinds of experiences in the occasion, and also have nervous moments, afraid that they will say the wrong thing because of nervousness.

So how do you restrain this nervousness? Or, how do you exercise your ability not to be nervous?

The first is to learn autosuggestion, to tell yourself every time I have a tense moment, I have been born with nothing, so what am I afraid of? What's there to be nervous about? It's really easy to use, and when you don't care what other people think, it doesn't make sense for you to be nervous.

The second is to use the "big self" to defeat the "small self", people have a supreme "big self" in their brains, and there is also a "small self", the moment you are nervous, it is the ego to avoid and self-protection in action, at this time your big self must stand up, say to the little me in your heart "You get out!" ”

When you do this regularly, you have more control over your brain than your inner ego.

The third is to read 10,000 books and travel 10,000 miles. When a person gets nervous too easily, it means that you have experienced too little and know too little. If you look at those old people, they are not very nervous, because they have experienced more, seen more, and know more, so they have a certain understanding and grasp of most things. I usually read more books, history, natural science, social science, and philosophy, and I know what society is about, what people are about, and what the world is about.

When you can look at life from a higher, broader perspective, you will find that everything cannot escape the truth that the book tells you.

The fourth is to do repetitive and deliberate exercises for what you are afraid of. It's rare for anyone to be nervous about speaking or doing something on the podium for the first time, but it's not often that you see professional presenters and speakers get nervous on the podium because they practice enough. If you are particularly nervous about something, it means that your brain has not yet adapted to it, and you who were afraid of the camera before will have to talk to the camera repeatedly in the future to overcome this lack of confidence.

If you're afraid of something, you have to do this kind of thing. Being nervous just means you haven't done enough about it.

The fifth is to exercise the ability not to react, your nervousness is sometimes uncontrolled self-reaction, hiding in a crowded situation, in a dark environment to blend in. When you meet someone big, you start to get nervous in a conditioned way, which is the conditioned reflex. Pavlov's dog, as soon as the bell rings, the dog will start drooling, and a lot of your nervousness is also trained in this way.

When real-life ringtones start to appear, your nervousness will show up uncontrollably, so what to do? Work on your unresponsiveness and replace immediate reflexes with ease. For example, if someone calls your name, don't rush to respond right away, pause for a second or two. For example, when you are communicating with someone, and they have finished talking to them, you should not rush to answer them immediately.

You have to understand that when someone talks to you, you don't have to reply immediately, and you can not answer the phone when you have it. When you understand this question, you will no longer reflexively respond immediately, give yourself a pause or two seconds, and these few seconds will immediately make you appear calm and calm.

The sixth is to use your breath to control your nervousness. Every time you are nervous, excited, or angry, you will feel that your whole breath becomes short, your breath will rush to your head, and your emotions will become uncontrollable.

This is to use our physiological state to change our psychological state, when you are unhappy, you can also fake smile a few more times, and you will find that the unhappy mood will be reduced.

The seventh is imagination. Imagination is our best brain cheat because our nervous system can't tell whether something is actually gained or just by vivid imagination. When you imagine your highlight moments and face the situation in front of you, as long as you imagine it properly, you will really get the highlight moments of relaxation and confidence.

The eighth is to learn to relax yourself. When you're nervous, try doing deep breathing, stretching, and relaxing muscles. These movements can help you relieve tension in your body and allow your emotions to relax. For example, you can try doing a head massage or slowly turning your neck, which can relieve tension in your neck and head muscles.

The ninth is to participate in more social activities. In social situations, you can communicate and interact with others, which not only increases your social experience, but also helps you understand yourself and others better. By communicating with others, you can better understand your emotions and thoughts, which can lead to greater control over your emotions.

The tenth is to learn to self-regulate. When you're nervous, you can try to distract yourself, such as listening to music, watching a movie, or chatting with friends. These activities can help you relax and get you out of the tension.

The eleventh is to face life with a positive attitude. A positive attitude can help you cope better with life's challenges and difficulties and make you more confident and optimistic. You can try to change your mindset and look at things from a positive perspective to make yourself more optimistic and confident.

The twelfth is to maintain a healthy lifestyle. Maintaining a healthy lifestyle can help you maintain physical health and mental balance. You can try to maintain a regular sleep schedule, eat a healthy diet, and exercise properly, all of which can help you relieve tension and make you more confident and optimistic.

With these methods, you can better control your emotions, relieve tension, and make yourself more confident and optimistic.

Whether in life or work, it is very important to maintain a positive mindset and a good mood.