This is the competitive negotiators, they see almost everything as a cruel competition where you win or I lose, they are stubborn fighters, they don't care about the needs and feelings of others, they will do whatever it takes to achieve their goals, in their minds, this is all right, and every victory brings them great joy and strengthens their determination to compete with others.

It is even more difficult for us to get information or benefits from these negotiators who are only successful or bad. They always seemed humble and considerate, they seemed concerned about our needs, they always had a smile on their lips, and it was only when they left that we knew we were bleeding and wounded.

When we come to our senses and angrily scold "this son of a bitch", we will also find that a dagger has been inserted in the back, and it is already too late. So how do we distinguish this kind of good liar? We can start with the following six aspects.

1. Start to make trouble. They always disrupt our intended goals by making unattainable demands at the outset.

2. Some powers. They always say that they have only the slightest power to make concessions, or even the slightest power to make concessions.

3. Interpret the love xù. Sometimes they would blush, glaring at us as if we were taking advantage of them, and even showing their temper and stopping the negotiations in protest.

4. Step by step. If we give in or promise them something, they will never have a relationship. It's about chasing after us.

5. Don't pull out a dime. On the issue of concessions. They always find all sorts of excuses to postpone, even if they seem to have made concessions in the end. But the actual requirements are not much different from the original.

6. Ignoring deadlines. They are more patient than anyone else, and time seems to them to mean nothing.

Below, we will explain these six aspects separately, the first is to start the trouble.

They will always do it secretly before they start negotiating, so that the seller thinks that they are the only buyer, and avoid other competitors joining in, and they will initially offer a ridiculously low price, and then squeeze it out little by little like a sponge. Even some kind sellers will be grateful for their behavior.

If they are sellers, then the opposite is true, they will advertise it, they will win over countless buyers, and they will create contradictions between competitors, so that competitors will keep raising their chips, and they will take advantage of the fisherman's profit.

Sometimes many people are shocked by their outrageous behavior and withdraw from the trade. But this is not the case with these competitive negotiators, who will direct and act on their own, releasing new bait to attract buyers. Until someone is slaughtered.

This is just like the auction houses we work with, they will take advantage of the greed of buyers to exaggerate the rarity of their items to the maximum. Buyers can find as many as they can, and even set identity conditions (creating contradictions between competitors. Let competitors kill each other. Make all buyers mistakenly think that they are the only person or item that the other person has access to. It's not as simple as scarcity being expensive, they will enhance this power. Letting countless lambs die under their butcher's knives is no different from banditry. ”

"So that's the case, no wonder you never go to the auction house, husband. ”

"Hehe, I think the Labyrinth Shop and the Amethyst Shop are better than the auction house. Okay, so let's move on to the next point – limited power.

Competitive negotiators don't give up the last bit of power, they always let their non-deciding subordinates negotiate with each other, while we can decide. On the other hand, they will pretend to ask their superiors for every decision, and we will keep making concessions, and in the end we can get some drinks and "friendship" in exchange.

Therefore, before we negotiate anything, we should never deal with people who do not have the right to decide, unless they are really bored or are not afraid of getting hurt.

This brings me to my previous job as a real estate consultant. It's the same as selling a car, and we always apologize to the client and say that I have to ask my superiors, but the reality is that I'm using this time to determine if the deal is worth it, and I don't need to ask for instructions at all.

This tactic of consulting superiors is another negotiation technique, and we will say that even the most powerful can consult their superiors.

We can also think about it the other way around, let's not let ourselves or the people who negotiate on our behalf have too much power, do you remember that we planned to besiege the Xingluo Empire and the Dark Holy See respectively? I let everyone rest assured and do it boldly, now that I say it, it will hurt my brothers and sisters, if it is a kind person, it is fine, and I will still think of a love, but the competitive negotiators will bite us back.

And I shouldn't have come forward, so I have 100 percent the right to decide, and in order to avoid that, we have to set limits for ourselves. In our earth, we often threaten, "If you buy again, you will chop your hands." There are too many people, we have to follow our own rules, if we can't, this bad habit will subtly affect the rest of our lives.

Just like the previous example when I bought a mobile phone, my total assets are only 1,200 yuan, and I shouldn't use all of them to buy a mobile phone, after all, I won't die if I don't have a mobile phone. But I would negotiate with myself and find all sorts of reasons to convince myself, typical of self-prediction fulfillment. For example, I would think like this, it's okay, I will be paid in three days. How to connect with friends and how to carry out work without buying a phone. In this situation, it's just that I don't have any money, if I have 100,000, I will definitely keep 20,000 for emergency use, and I will definitely not be stupid enough to use it all up.

In fact, it was precisely because I did not understand this hidden negotiation principle that I became depressed in the following years, and even I would not be sober and would continue to negotiate with myself. This is the result of my character, how can a stingy person fit my bold character? If you use it to earn it again, you won't starve to death.

So. We must remember not to allow ourselves to have too much power, if we go out to negotiate in the future, we can say something like this: "No, I can't call the shots about this, although I am the master of the Shura Hall, I still have to work with the Princess Hall, the Red Lotus Hall, and the Purple Orchid Hall...... Thousands of brothers and sisters can only discuss. Hehe. ”

The third characteristic of a competitor negotiator is the deductive emotion.

We are all love-fire cultivators, and we know that there are countless loves, but competitors and negotiators often do things that are rude or disrespectful. They will use this to provoke the other person. People would react like this: "Oh my God, this is a barbarian! No child would do such a thing, and if he didn't feel good about Hiroki that morning, he would probably blow the whole world down." ”

Therefore, when we negotiate with the other party, when we encounter the other party's behavior of slapping the table, throwing things, slippers, and scolding, we must not be deceived by the illusion, maybe he is pushing us into the abyss in his heart. People have a tendency to give in to threats and avoid being harmed. Just like this hypothesis. Where does the Dark Pope Freedka of the Sky Continent's superpower sleep?The answer is wherever he wants to sleep, because people will invisibly feel threatened. And that's what competitive negotiators expect.

And slapping the table is not the only way to interpret the love xù to influence others, any simple way can achieve this purpose.

Let's take a simple example, like me and Wanyu arguing. Although I was right and reasonable, how would I react when she suddenly burst into tears and begged for my forgiveness?

I'd like to. Okay, you're miserable now. You have to listen to whatever I say.

Surely not so! The vast majority of people, including me, will make a concession: "Wife, I'm sorry. It's my fault for making you cry, and I think I'm afraid I'm wrong. Come on, this is the space ring, you and Alyssa go out to buy clothes, you can spend as much as you want, you can't be in debt enough, and your husband will pay it back when the time comes!"

This does not only refer to the crying of women, although men do not flick when they have tears, but if men shed tears, and those who think very highly of their own identity, the effect of interpreting love will be better.

Tears can do their job, and just as anger can do it. Remember when we were in the Academy, in Niutou Village, in the Palace of the Elders of the Taurus Clan, etc., we expressed extreme anger, whether spontaneous or deliberate, which could make the other person feel helpless, and it was in this way that we successfully coerced the other person, and the other party would make different concessions.

The effect of anger and silence is not inferior to that of crying and anger, not only that, but all emotions will be useful, and with the factor of identity, the effect is beyond your imagination.

If we escape from the other person's trap and don't want to continue the topic and fight back against the other person, then laugh!

Hilarious will make the other party feel more pressure, especially in a very strict atmosphere, this method can play a miraculous effect, the higher the identity and status of both parties, the effect will be multiplied to the limit, which is a completely subversive effect.

Of course, a sudden departure can also be embarrassing or even frustrating for the non-leaver, which can make the situation more complicated and unpredictable.

For example, I went to dinner with Alyssa at a restaurant, and she told me that I was going to study at such and such a school for a few years to increase my cultivation, and I obviously didn't want her to leave me. But instead of saying that, I'm going to say, "So what do I do?"

Her: "Don't worry, of course we'll go together." ”

If I suddenly say "I'm sorry" without warning, I'll walk outside the restaurant.

After five minutes, Alyssa senses that something is wrong, she thinks about what happened, and a series of questions ensue:

Did he leave because he was angry?

Is he not feeling well?

Am I saying the wrong thing?

Maybe he went to the bathroom?

Will something happen to him?

Will he ever come back?

How do I get home?(To be continued......)