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(Wait a minute, I helped others do a few questions in the afternoon, delayed a little time, and there are still a few chapters that have not been updated, and it is estimated that the update will be completed before 2 o'clock tonight.) ）

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In real life, how many girls have been "arranged" and disciplined to live in confusion?

My friend Xiao Nan was diagnosed with moderate depression some time ago because of a long period of depression.

More and more I find that many people, especially girls, encounter a lot of problems in the process of growing up.

Most girls grow up in childhood under the narration of "for your good".

When you were a child, your parents, in the name of love, ignored your own thoughts:

"You're a girl, you shouldn't be how. ”

"I beat you and scolded you, all for your own good!"

Our parents arranged our lives in the way they felt was right, and never asked us if we liked it or not. From a practical point of view, it seems that from the moment a girl steps into society, it is difficult to resist the scrutiny and arrangement of the world.

I still remember that some time ago, many media advocated the idea of maintaining a slim waist during pregnancy, and in recent years, public opinion has been full of praise for Bai You's thin and girlish face;

The variety show "Sister Lang", which shows the charm of 30+ women, in addition to the first few episodes, lived up to expectations, and finally cut enough to give the aesthetic evaluation power directly to men!

And so on, trying to instill "the mainstream is like this, how you should be as a girl", "how you don't, how things go wrong, it's all your fault".

In fact, the beauty of women is diverse, and it must not be hastily defined by three or two labels.

What's more, looking at the girls now, all of them are knowledgeable, have thousands of ravines, and do not lose to men, they don't need to rely on others to judge at all, they have the right to choose.

Just like we have long liked personality actresses like Faye Wong and Li Yuchun, because they disdain to consider the proportion and measures of secular standard beauties, whether they are internal or external, and only pursue the life they want. Simple, calm, uninhibited, live the ideal appearance we pursue. I think most of the reasons why people feel lonely and uneasy are because there are still a lot of uncertainties and worries in their hearts.

It's like if you like someone, but you don't know if that person wants to be with him like you, so the text messages on your phone are sent and deleted and deleted, but you still feel so lonely.

This is also why, many people now want to be partial when they fall in love, and want to be his only and exception, because they want to get the attention of the person they like, and they want to have a reassuring and determined relationship.

After all, no one wants to wronged themselves, and they exchange their initiative for indifference and vacillation.

Yes, the more disappointed I encounter in my relationship, the more I like love in response.

I know that you like me and will not leave me, even if sometimes the message does not have time to reply in seconds, it will not disappear inexplicably, and you can clearly tell me what you are busy with and when you will contact me. This poem was written in the third year of Su Shi's demotion to Huangzhou. Su Shi traveled with everyone to play, encountered heavy rain on the way, and his companions were embarrassed to avoid the rain, but only Su Shi didn't care.

Bamboo canes and shoes are lighter than horses, who is afraid? In the face of the ups and downs of life, Su Shi chose to go his own way, and had a detachment feeling that was not afraid of ups and downs.

When he returned, there was neither wind nor rain nor sunshine. In other words, what is the difference between the wind and rain of life and the wind and rain of nature?

The rain and sunshine in nature are ordinary, but the wind and rain, honor and disgrace in social life, and the gains and losses are not enough?

"Huanxi Sand, Drizzle and Slanting Wind as Dawn and Cold"

The drizzle and the slanting wind make the dawn cold, and the light smoke is sparse and the willows are beautiful and the beach is clear.

Entering Huai Qingluo is gradually long.

The snow foam milk flower floats in the afternoon cup, and the artemisia shoots try the spring plate.

The taste of the world is refreshing.

When this poem was written, Su Shi moved from Huangzhou to Ruzhou. The pressure of officialdom has eased, and the imperial court wants to reinstate Su Shi.

Therefore, the spring scene written in the word is bright and abnormal. A plate of milky white fragrant tea and jade-like spring vegetables. The two phases are mirrored.

Su Shi's sentence "The taste of the world is pure joy" expresses his love for light smoke and willows, fragrant tea and spring vegetables, and even more so for the indifferent things in the world. When Su Dongpo was nineteen years old, he married Wang Fu, who was sixteen years old. Wang Fu is young and beautiful, and his relatives are very filial, and the two are deeply in love. It's a pity that destiny is impermanent. This day is the death day of his beloved wife, Su Shi finally dreamed of his wife at night, and wrote this poem in addition to being sentimental.

Don't think about it, it's unforgettable. Not often missed, but by no means forgotten. This kind of feeling buried deep in the bottom of my heart is difficult to eliminate.

In a calm tone, it is extremely painful. Life and death are separated, and when they meet again in their dreams, they only have "no words for each other, only a thousand tears".

It is the "wordlessness" that is better than a thousand words, and it is the silence that makes this dream feel infinitely desolate. “

In the end, the words and sentences returned to reality, the bright moon night was short Matsuoka, and when you woke up from the dream, you were gone after all, and it was more lonely and desolate than the small window in the dream. Drinking tea can cultivate temperament, drink more tea, read more, travel more, learn more about new things, and let yourself speak with confidence.

I firmly believe that even if the tea people are old, they are also gentle and elegant. It's like an endless book, with a different convincing content on every page.

Older people like to drink tea, there are joys and sorrows in tea, and mixed feelings in tea. Isn't tasting tea just tasting life?

Perhaps when he was young, he did not have the heroism of the literati Su Shi who "forbade three bowls of dry intestines before the night, and listened to the length of the deserted city", and did not have the charm of Lu Yu, the god of tea, "only the beautiful Xijiang water, once came down to Jingling City".

Without the poet Saint Du Fu's affection of "don't send others to send me first, I should be a tea person". You might as well borrow the bitterness of tea to fade away the childishness, immerse yourself in the rhythm of tea, and also grow a kind of courage to face the wind and rain.

Temperament is your attitude towards life. Humble gentleman, gentle as jade.

Cultivating an elegant temperament by drinking tea, the root of these two words is not on the face, but in the heart.

Temperament comes from self-confidence, from the heart of material accumulation, from accumulation, from experience, and from its own strong hard power. As the saying goes: "If you are not afraid of slowness, you are afraid of standing; ”

It means to do anything, not afraid of slowness, only afraid of stopping.

The road of life is very long, and for the sake of the small profits in front of me, I stopped moving forward, and I am bound to miss the scenery in front of me.

They will not stick to the half-acre pond in front of them, but never forget the distant stars and seas whenever and where.

Only by enduring the loneliness in front of you can we keep the prosperity of the future.

If we look long, the road will be longer, and it will withstand the long years